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Old 03-23-2017, 11:07 AM
 
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I talk to MG out loud at home and in the car. I still say, "Night, night," to him and tell him that I miss him. I only hope he can hear me.

When I look at his picture, I know exactly what his face felt like when I put my hands on his cheeks and to tell him that I love him. I can still see him switching up the size of his mustache, and how he would make silly faces at me. Really LOOKING at the people in your life is what I highly recommend - I especially if they are sick.

Surrounding myself with good people is very easy, because most everyone (except three in his family) have been so kind, so caring. Truth be told, there still ARE good people in this world.

When I lost my parents, it was different, because I wasn't living with them or seeing them everyday. When one loses a spouse - the one person seen on a daily basis - it changes everything (as was mentioned). Not as much needs to be bought at the store, the temperature of the house can be set and left, and there is no one to ask opinions.

I do feel overwhelmed at work and at home. There are times when I feel completely alone, and other times I just want to be left alone. This past week I've been trying to get small projects done in an effort to climb out of this hole.

BTW, the apple bread is excellent. MMM
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Old 03-23-2017, 11:23 AM
 
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Things will eventually start to get better for you, you just have to hang in there until then. Time is a great healer, you will never get over it, but things will get better.
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Old 03-23-2017, 01:38 PM
 
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Things will eventually start to get better for you, you just have to hang in there until then. Time is a great healer, you will never get over it, but things will get better.
And I will never be the same.
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Old 03-23-2017, 01:48 PM
 
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Things will be different that's for sure. But, you have to look forward to the time when you will be able to move forward with your life. You will always have the love and great times you had together in your heart, and the person you loved would want you to continue to live your life, while keeping the memories close to your heart.
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Old 03-23-2017, 06:10 PM
 
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And I will never be the same.
No. Nothing will ever be the same. But that doesn't mean that life cannot be good again.
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Old 03-23-2017, 09:27 PM
 
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It has been over 8 months since MG has been gone. I kept busy with his paperwork, selling his bike, the house, etc. It seems to be getting more difficult rather than easier.

I have to force myself to go to work, because pushing papers so that the boss can buy a new Farrari just doesn't seem important to me. Not much of anything seems important.
Im so sorry honey

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Old 03-24-2017, 07:32 PM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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What does MG mean?
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Old 03-25-2017, 12:07 PM
 
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MG = My Guy
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Old 03-25-2017, 12:26 PM
 
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Metamorphosis, I also miss the small things spouses know or make us smile. Throughout the day, I talk to him, if I lose things, just like when he was alive, I ask him if he has seen them, every night I say Buenos Noches Jamie, and he Bueno Noche back along with his nickname for me, these are things that give me both pleasure, yet sadness. I will always miss him, and know what looking at a picture of him is like. I am gathering them, and never realized how much he smiled in them. I hope, Metamorphosis, you and I find it easier to deal with their deaths in the new future.
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Old 03-27-2017, 03:40 PM
 
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I am so very grateful for the pictures I have; the recording of him saying, " Hi, this is MG, please leave your message . . . "; and the memories of how good it felt to have him sitting against me. I can't say enough about the abundance of good people that I have found since he has been in my life.

HUGS to you for your strength and your encouragement to others.
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