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Old 03-26-2017, 07:56 AM
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Originally Posted by G Grasshopper View Post
Well, maybe not. But I think people often do mean it, but they have no idea what could help, and they feel to pushy if they make suggestions, etc. As in my note above, it takes two to actually agree on an action of helping.

My condolences on the loss of your mother.
Thank you.
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Old 03-26-2017, 09:24 AM
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Here in NY close friends and family bring envelopes with cash. It's for the family to do with how they please
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Old 03-30-2017, 08:06 AM
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Originally Posted by dizzybint View Post
i was just thinking about funerals and how expensive they are and how some families have to scramble money together if the death was a young person or unexepected.... There are always the hand holders who say.. "if theres anything I can do.. anything at all just call on me", what utter tosh.... why not shove fifty quid in along with the sympathy card to help the grieving family instead of false sentiment... My aunt was left quite poor after my uncles death and some men from his Buffalo club came to the house, He had been in the Bufflaloes most of his life.... and they came away with the same old song.... "Now Mrs Brown, if you need anything at all phone the club". now she would have been the last person to phone his club as he drank there all his life and made it his first home.. Why couldnt they have helped her out then and there.. it was pathetic and it does ease stress if people are struggling with money problems, Im all for giving to the grieving family rather than showing up with big fancy wedding , birthday and christening presents.. Any views on this..
I was bought up to do just that...we always not only put money in a card, but also, baked or cooked something for the wake and also took meals over for a week or so...neighbors would get together, but that part is probably gone in these days. Where I live, we still do it, b/c everyone is my age.
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Old 03-30-2017, 09:02 AM
Location: Sneads Ferry NC/Randolph NJ/Cape Coral FL
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Originally Posted by jencam View Post
It's $150 for a cat. A dog would cost $300. People can't have it for $300. I've not even seen $800.
Exactly. My father's wishes were direct cremation, no viewing and it cost my mom well over $1000.
There is more to it then just cremating the person, they have to come pick the body up and they don't do that free of charge.
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