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Old 03-27-2017, 12:51 PM
 
Location: Leaving fabulous Las Vegas, Nevada
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And this is something that the mere thought of terrified me as a child.

She was supposed to be discharged from the Rehab facility she had been in for a week and a half following a week & a half in the hospital & ICU.

My dad went to go bring her home … And found the ambulance, FD & PD rushing around by her room. And she was gone.

My beautiful mother is gone.

I was a difficult to love child, the schools told her I was “retarded” & she refused to accept it. She demanded I be retested with a different test & when they noted that I was reading at the level of of a HS graduate (in the 2nd grade) they said “Well; she’s not retarded but there is something wrong with her!”

Later as an adult, at her insistence, I was tested & found to be ASD.

She told me everyday that I was brilliant but never told me I was pretty.

Truth is; I actually was pretty but not brilliant. Years later she told me her goal was to raise a girl into an independent woman & that would be achieved if I had more confidence in my brain than in my looks. She said “People used to tell me what a beautiful little girl I had all the time; I didn’t want you to get a fat head & think you didn’t have to work for anything.”

When she started Kindergarten in the Denver public schools, she didn’t even speak English. But she graduated at the age of 16 & went on to become a Biochemist (PhD), Registered Dietician & Professor. Fluent in 3 languages.

She’s a tough act to follow. I miss my mom.
I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom sounds like she was the perfect mom for you. She knew how to insist on your behalf. She knew she had a beautiful girl and she set a wonderful example for you and modeled excellence in so many tough areas of life. It's so hard to lose a wonderful mom; I know.

I will be remembering you and your family in my prayers.
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Old 03-27-2017, 01:04 PM
 
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What a wonderful post. Finding the best in our loved ones is hard to do sometimes, but so very important. No one is perfect. Sounds like your mom had a wonderful daughter. That alone will have made her life worth every second. Part of her lives on through you.

I lost my mom this year and as time passes I remember more and more of the details that made her a unique person. I remember less and less of her illness. I think it's great when we can keep a part of them alive with conversation.

My thoughts will be with you and thanks for sharing.
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Old 03-27-2017, 02:29 PM
 
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She told me everyday that I was brilliant...Years later she told me her goal was to raise a girl into an independent woman & that would be achieved if I had more confidence in my brain than in my looks..

Your mother sounds amazing. That was a wonderful gift (above) that she gave you. She really loved you and believed in you.

I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 03-27-2017, 02:35 PM
 
Location: SW Florida
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Coschristi I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother sounds like she was a very special woman who raised a very special daughter from what I can tell from your posts.
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Old 03-27-2017, 02:46 PM
 
Location: East of the Sun
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Deepest sympathies and best wishes.
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Old 03-27-2017, 05:48 PM
 
Location: colorado springs, CO
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My thanks, to each & every one of you; it took my breath away to check this thread & see all of your responses.

My dad; I have to be strong for my dad. He was the best husband a woman could ever hope for & she was his life. They just had their 50th anniversary in October & his first words to me were “What will I do without her? She was my sweetie-pie. … “

My youngest son, age 13 & severely Autistic, was with me when I rushed to the Rehab facility but he couldn’t be left alone in the hallway. He calmly walked to his grandmother’s body & placed his hands over her heart & said “You gave me jellybeans. I will see you again when I die.”

He can’t even tell me if if his head hurts, or ask me for help if something isn’t working right. Where that clarity of thought & speech came from I’ll never know. He was so special to her.

Thank you all, again.
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Old 03-27-2017, 06:12 PM
 
Location: Leaving fabulous Las Vegas, Nevada
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My thanks, to each & every one of you; it took my breath away to check this thread & see all of your responses.

My dad; I have to be strong for my dad. He was the best husband a woman could ever hope for & she was his life. They just had their 50th anniversary in October & his first words to me were “What will I do without her? She was my sweetie-pie. … “

My youngest son, age 13 & severely Autistic, was with me when I rushed to the Rehab facility but he couldn’t be left alone in the hallway. He calmly walked to his grandmother’s body & placed his hands over her heart & said “You gave me jellybeans. I will see you again when I die.”

He can’t even tell me if if his head hurts, or ask me for help if something isn’t working right. Where that clarity of thought & speech came from I’ll never know. He was so special to her.

Thank you all, again.
Oh, my! You brought me to tears.
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Old 03-27-2017, 07:03 PM
 
Location: Saint John, IN
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Oh, my! You brought me to tears.
Me too!
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Old 03-27-2017, 07:04 PM
 
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I lost my mom a couple years ago. I still find things to tell her. She was my best friend.

We are both so lucky and blessed to have wonderful moms.

HUGS.
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Old 03-27-2017, 07:06 PM
 
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My thanks, to each & every one of you; it took my breath away to check this thread & see all of your responses.

My dad; I have to be strong for my dad. He was the best husband a woman could ever hope for & she was his life. They just had their 50th anniversary in October & his first words to me were “What will I do without her? She was my sweetie-pie. … “

My youngest son, age 13 & severely Autistic, was with me when I rushed to the Rehab facility but he couldn’t be left alone in the hallway. He calmly walked to his grandmother’s body & placed his hands over her heart & said “You gave me jellybeans. I will see you again when I die.”

He can’t even tell me if if his head hurts, or ask me for help if something isn’t working right. Where that clarity of thought & speech came from I’ll never know. He was so special to her.

Thank you all, again.
Yes, this pretty much made me cry.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I know words cannot bring your mother back, but my god how sad!! HUGSSS
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