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Old 03-26-2017, 11:09 AM
 
Location: colorado springs, CO
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And this is something that the mere thought of terrified me as a child.

She was supposed to be discharged from the Rehab facility she had been in for a week and a half following a week & a half in the hospital & ICU.

My dad went to go bring her home … And found the ambulance, FD & PD rushing around by her room. And she was gone.

My beautiful mother is gone.

I was a difficult to love child, the schools told her I was “retarded” & she refused to accept it. She demanded I be retested with a different test & when they noted that I was reading at the level of of a HS graduate (in the 2nd grade) they said “Well; she’s not retarded but there is something wrong with her!”

Later as an adult, at her insistence, I was tested & found to be ASD.

She told me everyday that I was brilliant but never told me I was pretty.

Truth is; I actually was pretty but not brilliant. Years later she told me her goal was to raise a girl into an independent woman & that would be achieved if I had more confidence in my brain than in my looks. She said “People used to tell me what a beautiful little girl I had all the time; I didn’t want you to get a fat head & think you didn’t have to work for anything.”

When she started Kindergarten in the Denver public schools, she didn’t even speak English. But she graduated at the age of 16 & went on to become a Biochemist (PhD), Registered Dietician & Professor. Fluent in 3 languages.

She’s a tough act to follow. I miss my mom.
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Old 03-26-2017, 11:19 AM
 
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I'm sorry for your loss but you will always remember what a special woman she was and how she nurtured you to become special. You are her legacy.
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Old 03-26-2017, 11:51 AM
 
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So sorry that you've lost your Mom, such a profound loss.

She sounds like a very strong woman. You must be very proud of her, and you may be just as strong and resilient.

I know this is a loss that hurts down to your soul. I have been there. Grief takes as long as it takes.

I hope that you have family and friends to talk to right now. And that you and your father help each other. Reach out here too, good supportive folks on this forum.

Sending you prayerful thoughts and support.
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Old 03-26-2017, 12:00 PM
 
Location: East of the Mississippi and South of Bluegrass
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<snip> She’s a tough act to follow. I miss my mom.
Sincere condolences cc, sincerely, may she rest in peace. Grieve her loss as long as you need to.

I am sure your mother is proud of who you've become and grown into as a woman, regardless of her own accomplishments.

In all probability you will always miss your mom. My mother is gone 26 years now and it feels like I miss her every single day.
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Old 03-26-2017, 01:36 PM
 
Location: Prescott AZ
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Peace and blessings be with you now. I remember the day it happened to me. And as a child I was devastated when I learned that people die, and my Mom would too. Be kind to yourself and take your time to grieve.
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Old 03-26-2017, 02:04 PM
 
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She does sound special. Bless you as you deal with the loss
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Old 03-26-2017, 02:40 PM
 
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I am so sorry to hear about your mom. I'm sending prayers and support to you.
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Old 03-26-2017, 02:43 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Devastating.
I'm sorry.
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Old 03-26-2017, 02:46 PM
 
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So sorry for you loss. She was certainly special as a mother and in many other ways also.
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Old 03-26-2017, 03:00 PM
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I am so sorry. Those of us with wonderful mothers feel your pain.

When my mom died I couldn't understand how the world kept turning and people went about their day. I miss my mom every day and I know I always will.

You will get through this but it is no fun. Sending you a big hug.
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