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Old 05-12-2017, 08:23 PM
 
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When my father died, I called my boss and asked her to let others know, as it would be hard for me to tell people. Actually saying the words is difficult. People expressed their condolences appropriately, I think. I agree, it is hard to concentrate when you are grieving. That's why some places grant a few days of leave, but that is not nearly enough in many cases.

Very sorry about your loss.
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Old 05-13-2017, 03:48 PM
 
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Some people dont like to tell people because they like to grieve in thier own space.... They dont need ppl invading thier space saying "Oh im sorry" all the time....... It makes it harder!
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Old 05-13-2017, 05:46 PM
 
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It's better not to tell them all. You have to tell your boss, of course.

The problem is, if you tell them, you will end up by resenting that they're not sympathetic enough. If someone asks why you were out, it's better in the long run to just offhandedly say that you had a death in the family.
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Old 05-13-2017, 06:11 PM
 
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Right. Have you had to deal with this? How did you handle it?
I have just dealt with it. I choose to tell a few people at work and asked for it to be kept quiet. Often at work when someone has a death in their family, co workers put out a few cards and everyone signs them. Someone puts up a sign about the arrangements.

I wanted none of that. I did not want any of my co workers at the Memorial. For me I enjoy my work and my work friends inside of work. I prefer to keep my home life to myself.

You have to do what feels right for you. I did take off a little over a week. After I got back slowly a few people found out and gave me their, "I am sorry". My coworkers are great---I just wanted to keep it private, it is best for me to manage my feelings better. Again--you have to do what you feel is best. Upper Management knew about my situation and was amazing, checking on me. It has been more than a month and they still check on me and make sure I am doing okay.

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Some people dont like to tell people because they like to grieve in thier own space.... They dont need ppl invading thier space saying "Oh im sorry" all the time....... It makes it harder!
Agree completely.

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Old 05-13-2017, 08:11 PM
 
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My brother passed three months ago. I didn't tell anyone immediately. Gradually let a couple co-workers know. There wasn't a funeral or memorial so I was at work, no time off.
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Old 05-14-2017, 04:54 PM
 
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Personal Preference but for myself, I would probably tell them
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Old 05-14-2017, 05:41 PM
 
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Some people dont like to tell people because they like to grieve in thier own space.... They dont need ppl invading thier space saying "Oh im sorry" all the time....... It makes it harder!


Offering condolences is.........."invading their space "......?
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