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Old 05-02-2017, 10:06 AM
 
Location: Raleigh, NC
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My mother passed away on Saturday after being diagnosed with congestive heart failure a few months ago.
I've only told two managers and one coworker who is our team lead. I took the day off yesterday and will be gone most of next week. But I'm at work today and the rest of the week. It's hard to really concentrate on work. It's strange *not* having people come up to you to say "I'm so sorry", but I haven't advertised that she passed away.

There will be a memorial service and then burial next week. Then I have to hang around to deal with lawyers, realtors, etc.

She only had a hand written will but never properly executed it.
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Old 05-02-2017, 10:08 AM
 
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You are not required to tell anyone anything about your personal life outside of the office.
If you want to that is your choice.
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Old 05-02-2017, 10:34 AM
 
Location: Raleigh, NC
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You are not required to tell anyone anything about your personal life outside of the office.
If you want to that is your choice.
Right. Have you had to deal with this? How did you handle it?
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Old 05-02-2017, 12:54 PM
 
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I've only told two managers and one coworker who is our team lead. I took the day off yesterday and will be gone most of next week. But I'm at work today and the rest of the week. It's hard to really concentrate on work. It's strange *not* having people come up to you to say "I'm so sorry", but I haven't advertised that she passed away.
Thats OK honey,you dont have to tell anyone if you dont want to..... This is a private thing and people get thru it in different ways!!

Im glad you told us,we care about you alot...... Im glad your able to still even goto work with all this on your mind..... I am so sorry for your loss
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Old 05-02-2017, 01:01 PM
 
Location: between Mars and Venus
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It's up to you to tell or not, other colleagues will get to know when words get around, or find out that you're away for compassionate leave.

Some people don't tell when they want to keep things professional at work, or their work environment is of such. If it makes you feel better by telling, simply mention your situation to coworkers for reasons that you may be lacking concentration during this time and hope they understand.

Condolences to you and your family.
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Old 05-02-2017, 02:55 PM
 
Location: Raleigh, NC
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Thanks everyone. It was hard to concentrate at work today.
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Old 05-02-2017, 06:35 PM
 
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I'm sorry for the loss of your mother.

It can be hard to concentrate, but work can be a blessing (I can't believe I just wrote that) as well. Work is one of the few ways I know that can keep a person's mind busy through the tough parts.

Of course, telling co-workers is a choice for each grieving individual. Just remember that co-workers can be a source of support in tough times. Even in these days there still are people who want to help.
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Old 05-03-2017, 04:54 AM
 
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I just said a prayer for ya zitsky
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Old 05-08-2017, 01:56 PM
 
Location: East of Seattle since 1992, originally from SF Bay Area
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When you use bereavement leave for the days off, at the minimum your boss will know, and pass it along. In my case of a recent sister passing, I also told my direct reports, individually so that they could plan on going to my boss if anything came up while I was off. I'm sure they told others around the office.
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Old 05-12-2017, 10:34 AM
 
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Every place I have ever worked, a sympathy card is signed by many of the co-workers and a voluntary monetary collection was taken up as a token of caring.
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