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Old 05-15-2017, 03:05 PM
 
Location: Surfside Beach, SC
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I think you should absolutely wear that ring and do whatever else brings you comfort. My heart goes out to you and I'm so sorry for the loss of your beloved. Wear that ring and let it bring you some peace.
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Old 05-15-2017, 04:39 PM
 
Location: Arizona
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I don't like the idea. Wearing a woman's ring will not help get through the grieving process. It might make it last forever.
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Old 05-15-2017, 05:48 PM
 
Location: The sleepy part of New York City
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My wife passed on November 22nd last year after 7 years of declining health issues and 58 years of a very happy marriage. This month is the sixth month off her passing. My question is do you think it is okay for me to wear her diamond wedding ring on my right hand? I feel by wearing it she feels close to me. I have no intention of taking my wedding ring off my left hand as it has remained there 24/7 since the day we married.
I would appreciate your thoughts on this.
Thank you,
Bob
Bob, my condolences on the loss of your wife.

As for the ring, my only concern is that it would be too small and might fall off your finger..

If wearing her ring makes you feel closer to her and brings you comfort, then wear it. Whether you choose to wear it on your finger, left hand, right hand, around your neck or even as a nose ring that's your choice.

Just a suggestion because I'm afraid it might fall off your hand.. perhaps you could go to a jeweler and see if they can be combined into one ring?
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Old 05-15-2017, 06:43 PM
 
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I wear my late wife's ring's and my wedding ring on a chain around my neck. I gave the rest of her jewelry to her sister and her daughter, my niece.
I vote for this solution.
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Old 05-15-2017, 07:12 PM
 
Location: Denver CO
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My mom wears my dad's ring on a chain, it would be too large for her. If your wife's ring fits your hand and is comfortable and that's where you want to wear it, then don't let anyone tell you no. But if the size is an issue, wearing on a chain is also a good option.
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Old 05-16-2017, 07:00 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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Bob5770 - do what makes YOU happy and brings you comfort. Make it a pinky ring, put it on a chain around your neck, whichever you prefer.
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Old 05-17-2017, 11:53 AM
 
Location: SW MO
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My wife died this Monday. I am wearing her wedding band (she didn't want an engagement ring) on a fairly long chain around my neck where it will stay close to my heart until the day I join her. She was 68 and I'm 70 so perhaps it won't be long and I'm fine with that.
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Old 05-17-2017, 11:56 AM
 
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My wife died this Monday. I am wearing her wedding band (she didn't want an engagement ring) on a fairly long chain around my neck where it will stay close to my heart until the day I join her. She was 68 and I'm 70 so perhaps it won't be long and I'm fine with that.
Our sincerest sympathies for your loss.
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Old 05-19-2017, 01:38 AM
 
Location: 900 miles from my home in 80814
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I say, wear your ring/s however you want. If you want them on a chain, that's fine. If you want to wear her ring on your right hand, that's fine, too! Whatever you decide to do, make sure it's on your terms, it's your choice, and not something you're doing because someone else told you what to do. My husband passed away 7 1/2 years ago, suddenly and unexpectedly, and I still wear my wedding bands just as I did when we were married, on my left hand. My diamond was my grandmother's and I cherish it, and the story of how my husband acquired the diamond.

I live alone, but I'm not lonely. I volunteer in my community, I have hobbies, I'm in a book club, so I've created a full life as a widow. Whether you wear her rings, your rings, or a combination of both, or nothing at all, just make sure you're doing what you want.

As my hippie generation used to say, "If it feels good and right, it is, so just do it".
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Old 05-19-2017, 10:41 AM
 
Location: R.I.
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My wife passed on November 22nd last year after 7 years of declining health issues and 58 years of a very happy marriage. This month is the sixth month off her passing. My question is do you think it is okay for me to wear her diamond wedding ring on my right hand? I feel by wearing it she feels close to me. I have no intention of taking my wedding ring off my left hand as it has remained there 24/7 since the day we married.
I would appreciate your thoughts on this.
Thank you,
Bob
I was widowed suddenly 16 years ago when I was 44 and my husband was 49. My late husband had very narrow fingers and his wedding band easily fits on my right ring finger which I wear along with my own wedding band on that same finger. I have also been in a committed relationship for the last 14 years which my SO gave me a beautiful diamond and ruby ring which I wear on my left ring finger. I feel very comfortable in how I wear my rings, and my SO has no issue with me still wear mine and my late husband's wedding bands as he is pretty secure in our relationship which now is almost as long as the years I was married to my late husband. Do whatever makes you feel comfortable as there are no rules in place for this.


Very sorry for you loss. My husband also died in November on the 29th which that year was two days after Thanksgiving, and even all these years later it is still a tough holiday for me.
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