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Old 05-15-2017, 06:41 PM
 
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As of this week, I have lost two people to cancer in less than 11 months - my guy and my sister.

I'm tired of watching people die. Neither person wanted to linger and have others "wait". That's all I could do ya know. There isn't anything a person can say or do to reverse the situation.

It's exhausting, btw.

Strange how they will give an injection to a felon or a sick animal, but there is nothing humane about a sick person dying. All that can be done is medicate them until they pass. What is humane about that?

Please don't suggest that I might be depressed. I'm sure that I am. Please don't suggest that I see someone. I have - with medication. Nothing will bring them back.
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Old 05-17-2017, 09:15 AM
 
Location: Finally the house is done and we are in Port St. Lucie!
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{{{{ hugs }}}}. I'm so sorry for your losses.
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Old 05-17-2017, 07:33 PM
 
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Thank you, Robino1.
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Old 05-19-2017, 06:50 PM
 
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Of course you're depressed. You should be. It's normal. Death and loss are depressing. It's absurd to medicate it, as if grief is wrong. I won't say that you should "see someone" - but I do hope that you have one or two relatives or friends you're close to, who are in touch with you.

So sorry for your grief. And that a good point, but a sad one - about the awfulness of a lingering death. A friend of mine was recently diagnosed with multiple cancers, and it's an awful situation.
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Old 05-20-2017, 02:37 AM
 
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Quite the sorrow filled message to share..Thank you for bringing to light the effect this has. On those left to carry on.
My condolences for such losses.
In early time of grief..I recall a neighbor shedding some relief to my sorrow..She simply said...You were there...And your loved one needed a hand to guide them to peace.
What I thought to be a curse...Was a blessing that I could be there...Just simply be with them in their journeys..Take comfort in that..
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Old 05-20-2017, 09:09 PM
 
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I thank each of you for your kind words.

I'm having trouble with motivation. Nothing seems important. UGH.

Anyway, thank you.
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Old 05-20-2017, 09:18 PM
 
Location: NC
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metamorphosis - I'm so very sorry for what you and your loved ones went through. I can only imagine how exhausting it has been for you. You must be beyond spent. I had a friend who took care of her sister who was fighting cancer for just under a year. I saw first hand what a toll it took on her as the caregiver. Thankfully, she made it through the tough time after the loss of her sister with help from family and friends. I honestly admire anyone who can do this. I imagine you are at the point where you are still processing it all, and wondering how you will let it continue to impact your life. I can feel your anger, that's OK, you've gotta move through clearing out all the emotions you've been bottling up. Clearly it has and will change you. As time goes on, I hope that you are able to see what the experience of the losses has taught you. And I hope that you are able to feel joy again and give thanks for having had your loved ones in your life. I know it's hard to imagine, but, you can use this experience in a positive way - when you are ready, it's too soon yet.


Time to take care of yourself my dear.
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Old 05-20-2017, 09:27 PM
 
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I have been blessed to have both people in my life.

Being without them is tough. The next toughest thing is with the cancers they had, they both stopped eating, then stopped drinking. It's hard to imagine anything worse to watch.
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Old 05-21-2017, 10:14 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I thank each of you for your kind words.

I'm having trouble with motivation. Nothing seems important. UGH.

Anyway, thank you.
Paying the utility bills and rent or mortgage is important. Other than that, I don't have a clue. Oh, wait, you're supposed to eat.

I had a problem with that.
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