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Old 05-27-2017, 12:22 PM
 
Location: Florida
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Two mornings ago my husband died, and the sadness is just too unbearable. I can't stop crying. We were together 46 years. Yesterday was our anniversary. That made it even more heart wrenching. I feel like I want to be where he is. It's going to take me forever to get over this. He was the love of my life. I'm so broken.

I feel like I will never be the same. A part of me died with him. I'm just heartbroken.
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Old 05-27-2017, 12:33 PM
 
Location: Sneads Ferry NC/Randolph NJ/Cape Coral FL
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So very sorry for your loss. Just went through this 3 months ago, it is not easy. HUGS
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Old 05-27-2017, 12:34 PM
 
Location: SW MO
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Two mornings ago my husband died, and the sadness is just too unbearable. I can't stop crying. We were together 46 years. Yesterday was our anniversary. That made it even more heart wrenching. I feel like I want to be where he is. It's going to take me forever to get over this. He was the love of my life. I'm so broken.

I feel like I will never be the same. A part of me died with him. I'm just heartbroken.
No, you never will be the same and I can only offer you my sincere condolences. My wife passed away the day after Mother's Day and it just seems wrong. Although we didn't marry until later in life she was the love of my life and my best friend. Like you I think it will take me forever but by the same token, I don't think I'll ever get over this. My one consolation is that I'm already 70 and won't live forever, nor do I wish to,.
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Old 05-27-2017, 12:57 PM
 
Location: Midvale, Idaho
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Oh Marble Cakes you were so on my mind the last couple of days. I even sent you a message yesterday. I am so sorry. Big hugs to you. It is so sad. There are no words I know that will help having just gone through this myself going on 10 months now. WOW. I am surviving. One day at a time. Now just do the best you can to take care of you.
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Old 05-27-2017, 02:23 PM
 
Location: Richmond
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Sorry for you loss, I have been there. I lost my first wife 9 years ago. She was only 48 at the time.


And Not even 2 months ago, I lost my best friend, someone I had been friend with for 29 years. He was 47 when he died.


All I can say it does get easier as the years go by.
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Old 05-27-2017, 05:05 PM
 
Location: Lafayette, LA
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So so sorry for your loss. I have no advice, just hugs and positive thoughts to hopefully help you through.
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Old 05-27-2017, 05:15 PM
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Location: NC/SC Border Patrol
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Sorry for your grief. Think about ways to honor him through the rest of your life. My sister-in-law made a prayer garden where she goes to meditate and feel close to him. It hasn't happened to me yet but my friends tell me how hard it is.

We have a village where we meet during the day and talk as friends. You are welcome to join us.

We will be getting a new thread for the village soon. Probably the start of next month. Right now thread starts out. "Village is back again, yay."
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Old 05-27-2017, 07:19 PM
 
Location: Sydney, Australia
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You have my condolences. Remember to cherish those 46 years you've been with him.
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Old 05-27-2017, 07:47 PM
 
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Two mornings ago my husband died, and the sadness is just too unbearable. I can't stop crying. We were together 46 years. Yesterday was our anniversary. That made it even more heart wrenching. I feel like I want to be where he is. It's going to take me forever to get over this. He was the love of my life. I'm so broken.

I feel like I will never be the same. A part of me died with him. I'm just heartbroken.
No, you never will be the same. A part of you did die with him. I lost my wife of 33 years to breast cancer 12 years ago. I am not the same and never will be, but life has taken so many unexpected turns that it has become an entirely new second life. Just keep your husband in your heart, always honor his memory, and stay open to whatever life sends your way.


One of the best pieces of advice I received was, "Don't make any significant life decisions for at least one year. Don't sell the house, quit your job, start a new romance or anything else. You think you are thinking clearly, but you aren't." I realized later how sound that advice was. I thought I was thinking clearly, but I wasn't. I made lots of stupid small decisions, but at least no disastrous ones.


I hope you truly believe you will one day be where your husband is. I firmly believe that as well. When it's your time, you will be with him. There is a reason that you rather than him were given the challenge of remaining behind for now.
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Old 05-27-2017, 07:56 PM
 
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im so sorry for your loss,OP.Rest In Peace.
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