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Old 07-10-2017, 04:14 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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I am so sorry that your sadness is diluting your joy. I bet your wife would have wanted you to be happy now.
Feel what you feel, and don't apologize for it. It's ok.
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Old 07-10-2017, 05:00 PM
 
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You late wife above is smiling down with the arrival of your great granddaughter. Hug.
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Old 07-10-2017, 05:47 PM
 
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Congratulations ! And I'm so sorry, Curmudgeon. Give that baby all of the love you have as well as the love your wife would have were she still here with you all. You have to give and receive the emotions for the both of you now.

Live is so hard - Best wishes to you
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Old 07-10-2017, 08:37 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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To quote an old country song:

"Some Days Are Diamonds. Some days are stone. Sometimes the hard times won't leave me (you) alone..."

Dealing with loss means a lot of days of stone. Hang in there.
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Old 07-10-2017, 09:11 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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Desert Rose Band. Music makes everything better for me. Everything. Find the right song.
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Old 07-11-2017, 12:00 AM
 
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Understandable that it is tough to not have her here to share this special time with you.

I hope that new baby lives close to you. I think that special new little one will help you
though a tough season of grief.
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Old 07-11-2017, 04:58 AM
 
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Always interesting that new life arrives close to when another has passed. Hold that baby close as you honor your late wife. She is in that hug too. So sorry for your loss.
Mae
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Old 07-11-2017, 05:27 AM
 
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I totally understand the meltdowns. Some days are better than others. It is all a part of the grieving we are going through. At times the simplest thing will send me into a tailspin of crying. We will grieve and love forever, time will ease the pain but it will never go away.
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Old 07-11-2017, 06:39 AM
 
Location: SW Florida
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I had a similar bittersweet feeling when my granddaughter was born as my father was no longer alive to see his first great grandchild. He also wasn't here anymore to see the first person from our immediate family graduate from college. Same with my late husband. I just pray they are looking down from heaven and smiling.
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Old 07-11-2017, 08:31 AM
 
Location: Former LI'er Now a Rehoboth Beach Bunny
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No, it won't "pass". You will always miss that special person in your life. BUT, and here is where it is all up to you, you will find a way to make the rest of your life a celebration of both her life and yours. That new baby is a celebration of years of service your wife offered to those who she assisted. You need to find a niche and go for it. Can you read to kids? Can you visit a hospital with sick kids? Can you baby sit for the new little one or others in the family. If you can't go it alone, then have another there with you. You have to embrace the world through the eyes of a child and see all the good and not the bad. Once you do this, you will be able to see the joy your wife saw through a different prism. Children and their worlds are great healers, you have them their in front of you. I will keep you in my prayers.
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