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Old 07-13-2017, 01:12 AM
 
Location: Lexington, Kentucky
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A few days ago one of my granddaughters presented us with a healthy, lovely great granddaughter. That's my first. My wife already has a great grandson. Needless to say I was thrilled but it also filled me with sorrow. My wife was a former midwife who delivered hundreds of children in at-home births. She so loved the little ones and was especially excited that there would be a new girl baby as we have a surfeit of grandsons. We'd been looking forward to this birth for many months.

Along with my joy there was also a great deal of sorrow that my wife is no longer here to share in the long-anticipated joy. It set me back in the grief process and I spent much of the day in tears. Talk about a two-edged sword... This was it. Just when I thought I was making some progress eight weeks since my wife's passing I feel like I'm back at the very beginning of sorrow again.

Just needed to get that off my chest. Thanks for 'listening.' This too shall pass.
Prayers and Big Hugs your way.
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Old 07-13-2017, 08:55 PM
 
Location: Midvale, Idaho
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A few days ago one of my granddaughters presented us with a healthy, lovely great granddaughter. That's my first. My wife already has a great grandson. Needless to say I was thrilled but it also filled me with sorrow. My wife was a former midwife who delivered hundreds of children in at-home births. She so loved the little ones and was especially excited that there would be a new girl baby as we have a surfeit of grandsons. We'd been looking forward to this birth for many months.

Along with my joy there was also a great deal of sorrow that my wife is no longer here to share in the long-anticipated joy. It set me back in the grief process and I spent much of the day in tears. Talk about a two-edged sword... This was it. Just when I thought I was making some progress eight weeks since my wife's passing I feel like I'm back at the very beginning of sorrow again.

Just needed to get that off my chest. Thanks for 'listening.' This too shall pass.
Congratulations and Hugs. Grief just does this to us. One of my widowed friends son had his first child her first grand child and it also hit her very hard her husband was no longer there to share in this joy. I am sure your wife knows and is Joyful for all of you.
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Old 07-14-2017, 03:51 PM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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How cliche, but live goes on.
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Old 07-14-2017, 08:04 PM
 
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Congrats Curm on the birth of your first great granddaughter. I hope she will be a regular part of your life so you can tell her all about your beloved wife.

After the death of my husband and daughter, I kept getting sad that they were missing special events such as the high school graduation of our other children and the fact that our son joined the same branch of the military as he did. It sparked an idea....I would one day join them in heaven and be able to tell them about these things. Only I wanted to tell them now, or at least write them down to help me remember all the details as years go by. So I began a journal. I write letters to them telling them about the special events, special feelings, things I missed saying to them when they were alive, etc. It's helped me a lot. Perhaps you might consider doing something like this.

(((HUGS)))
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Old 07-14-2017, 08:07 PM
 
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Oh hugs. I'm so sorry for your loss, even as your family has gained another member. You're fresh out from your wife's passing and it is completely understandable that grief is popping up again. I've found, in my own life, that the processing of a death can take many months and still come around to bite me at the most unexpected times.

We love deeply so we grieve deeply. Congratulations on your new great granddaughter.
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