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Old 07-13-2017, 08:32 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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Me too. The anniversary of her death hit me much harder this year too ...........
I don't know why this year seems worse, but it does. At least to me.

It seems that half of the people I've known have died. I just can't think about that every day.
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Old 07-13-2017, 08:49 AM
 
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Me too. The anniversary of her death hit me much harder this year too ...........


"anniversary of her death "

A funeral home where my farm was partnered with the local farm radio station over 20 years ago and started a wonderful program on Sunday mornings from 8 AM-8:30 called Music and Memories

The program starts out with reading the names and dates of everyone that died and their death anniversary is in the upcoming week. ( loved ones send in the info 2 weeks in advance"


The rest of the half hour is filled with hymns and ends with the list read one more time.


There usually are about 25 names on that list and I usually knew a few of them on the list and my usual comment is............"I didn't realize it was that many years ago "

I do send in my father, mother, and wife's dates when the anniversary gets close.
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Old 07-13-2017, 09:01 AM
 
Location: New Mexico
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Some years it seems more noteworthy or maybe I'm more sensitive some years -- but mostly I just know it in my mental calendar what day it is. This year...I don't know. I'm coming up on the ten year mark in about two weeks. As it happens, by coincidence, my daughter will be with me that day so we might do something special.
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Old 07-13-2017, 02:48 PM
 
Location: Idaho
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Nothing; just another day in the life.....
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Old 07-13-2017, 07:47 PM
 
Location: Midvale, Idaho
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I did not do anything when hubby's birthday rolled around. I mentally wished him a happy birthday in heaven.Otherwise I just remembered him as I always do every day. I did not celebrate my birthday either. We never did. I have been through all the first years events except for the final one coming in August. So hard to believe it has almost been 11 months now and then one year. I just try to keep remembering the good times we had.

Now my dog just had his eleventh birthday on the 10th and I got down on the floor , put my arms around him, and sang happy birthday to him and he acted like he thought I was nuts. Hahahah Well maybe just a little. But it sure was fun to see his little stub of tail going about 90 MPH.
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Old 07-14-2017, 07:13 PM
 
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On their birthdays I ask God to tell them I still remember them, love them, miss them and have so much to tell them when I see them again in heaven.
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Old 07-15-2017, 03:30 PM
 
Location: Columbia SC
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My wife and often forgot our anniversary, each others birthdays, etc. We just never made a big thing about them. I think about her on her birthday and offer a toast to her for helping make my life as good as it is.
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Old 07-15-2017, 04:32 PM
 
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"anniversary of her death "

A funeral home where my farm was partnered with the local farm radio station over 20 years ago and started a wonderful program on Sunday mornings from 8 AM-8:30 called Music and Memories

The program starts out with reading the names and dates of everyone that died and their death anniversary is in the upcoming week. ( loved ones send in the info 2 weeks in advance"


The rest of the half hour is filled with hymns and ends with the list read one more time.


There usually are about 25 names on that list and I usually knew a few of them on the list and my usual comment is............"I didn't realize it was that many years ago "

I do send in my father, mother, and wife's dates when the anniversary gets close.
I like that!
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Old 08-16-2017, 02:11 PM
 
Location: Virginia
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I used to always put a little memorial message in the local paper on my husband's birthday, I think for the first five years after his death. I just realized today that I forgot his birthday two days ago and I honestly feel like I "betrayed" him. I know that's foolish, but I'm just in tears because even though it's been nine years since he died, I should have remembered his birthday, dammit!
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Old 08-16-2017, 02:19 PM
 
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I used to always put a little memorial message in the local paper on my husband's birthday, I think for the first five years after his death. I just realized today that I forgot his birthday two days ago and I honestly feel like I "betrayed" him. I know that's foolish, but I'm just in tears because even though it's been nine years since he died, I should have remembered his birthday, dammit!
I know everyone has their own way to remember those we've lost, but it seems like this is sort of a betrayal of your own making. Do you really think your husband would interpret the fact that you are involved in life and just forgot this as a betrayal? I don't know, but I expect your husband would think of you as a human, which necessarily means we forget things now and then. If you are busy in a good way, would he look on that as a good thing?
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