U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Grief and Mourning
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
Reply Start New Thread
Old 08-16-2017, 11:17 PM
Location: Mid-Atlantic
22,841 posts, read 21,895,422 times
Reputation: 27891


Originally Posted by Bungalove View Post
I used to always put a little memorial message in the local paper on my husband's birthday, I think for the first five years after his death. I just realized today that I forgot his birthday two days ago and I honestly feel like I "betrayed" him. I know that's foolish, but I'm just in tears because even though it's been nine years since he died, I should have remembered his birthday, dammit!
No. It means you are getting on with your life. He'd want that.

I felt terrible the first time I forgot my father's, mother's, brother's, nephew's, husband's birthday or date of death.

Maybe I was really busy or having a little fun. Life is for the living.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

Old 08-17-2017, 07:23 PM
11,708 posts, read 5,542,452 times
Reputation: 11129
I ended up being too stressed to be sad. I would like some traditions. I am envious of people with religious or other traditions that really soothe them to do.

When I think about my Mom now, I have a candle that I light. It's the kind made for things like that. There is no scent and they are tall, and I believe slow burning. IDK. It seems to help.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Grief and Mourning
Follow City-Data.com founder on our Forum or

All times are GMT -6.

2005-2018, Advameg, Inc.

City-Data.com - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35 - Top