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Old 11-04-2017, 08:44 AM
 
Location: In a house
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Oh gentlearts I am so very sorry for your loss. Stay strong. If you need to talk I am always here!!
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Old 11-04-2017, 08:45 AM
 
Location: S. FL (hell for me-wife loves it)
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Tonight, her husband called to say she has taken a turn for the worse. Her daughter is flying in tomorrow from TX, and her other two children are in the same town.. If she is still alive next week, I’m thinking that I will not go. I don’t want to intrude on the immediate family, but I’m not sure this is the right thing or not. I guess I’ll wait a few more days to decide.
Gentle, it is certainly not for me to say, but I'd go. You are immediate family, you are flesh and blood. Nothing could keep me away from my sister if it might be the last time I saw her.
Whatever your decision, you and her will be in my thoughts. I know this is not easy for you.
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Old 11-04-2017, 09:34 AM
 
Location: Wonderland
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I'm so sorry for your loss, gentlearts.

I just wanted to add that when my dad went into hospice and death was imminent, my mom's sisters rushed to her side and it meant SO MUCH to my mom and to us kids (their nieces and nephews) as well. None of them are drama queens and it just meant a lot to all of us for family to gather - if that makes sense. I mean, they loved my dad but I know they did what they did to support my mom and I was very grateful for that.

The funeral was really nice and was very comforting once again to have family around. I hope you find some comfort and closure in these rituals and gatherings. I was surprised at how much the presence of people I don't even see that often meant to me.

I haven't lost a sibling yet but I can imagine that it would be a grief of a different sort. I'm so sorry you're going through this.
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Old 11-04-2017, 11:53 AM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Thank you all so much.
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Old 11-04-2017, 04:39 PM
 
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So sorry for your loss. I lost my only sister late last year while I was in rehab with my issues. She had a long battle with MS. I cried for her for years before and now she is pain free. Those left behind are in the pain..but with time, all gets easier.
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Old 11-04-2017, 05:29 PM
 
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I'm so sorry.
Words fail me. But just have faith (whatever that means to you) that you'll know what to say and do when the time comes.
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Old 11-04-2017, 07:12 PM
 
Location: Southwest Washington State
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Go see your sister now.
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Old 11-04-2017, 07:27 PM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I am sorry to hear this, gentlearts.

Losing a sibling has its own kind of pain.
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Old 11-04-2017, 08:02 PM
 
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So sorry for your loss. Prayers the funeral is a comfort to all.
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Old 11-04-2017, 08:39 PM
 
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Dear Gentlehearts, I am so sorry for your loss, and especially that it occurred before you were able to get there. When I lost my sister I was incapable of being the support for others, as it hit me the hardest. Our sisters are part of our first memories, our first playmates and first confidants. I hope you can attend the funeral with your husband as you wish. Make it as easy as possible on yourself.
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