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Old 11-04-2017, 08:56 PM
 
Location: South-Western USA , desert
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It sounds like they don't think she's going to make it until the eighth.

You should consider going now, instead. . . .

Isn't that why your BIL called you . . . ?
To give you the chance to come early to say goodbye . . . ?

Just listen to her / them . . . cry with or laugh with her / them.
They need your assurance & compassion now . . . not wise advice.

These two articles share more about this:

"Comforting the Terminally Ill"


"When A Loved One is Terminally Ill"
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Old 11-04-2017, 09:39 PM
 
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I have tickets to visit my sister on the 8th. I thought, although she is very weak, we could just have quiet time together, and I could help her husband take care of her.

Tonight, her husband called to say she has taken a turn for the worse. Her daughter is flying in tomorrow from TX, and her other two children are in the same town.. If she is still alive next week, I’m thinking that I will not go. I don’t want to intrude on the immediate family, but I’m not sure this is the right thing or not. I guess I’ll wait a few more days to decide.
I was so sorry to read this update today.

If it helps any, when my father died, it was EXTREMELY comforting to me to have his brother, my uncle, there. His hugs felt like my father's hugs.

So, I wouldn''t worry about intruding. I'd trust my heart and go.

It might very well give your sister some peace to know you are there to help her family through this time.

I will hold your sister and you in my prayers over the next few days. Love to you all.
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Old 11-05-2017, 06:22 AM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Thank you all.
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Old 11-11-2017, 06:05 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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Just returned from the funeral. Lots of flowers, lots of friends. It was lovely, but sad.
At least I got to see a bunch of relatives I haven’t seen for awhile.

I sat next to my 90 year old aunt who is chic, sharp and lovely. She gave me a bracelet that used to be my mother’s. From pain comes good things, sometimes.
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