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Old 09-10-2017, 06:47 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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My great great aunt when I was about six. I didn't go to the funeral,but didn't quite understand the concept of death. I do remember everyone being upset and missing her as she was such a character.
I knew what dead meant because some of the pets had died. Maybe more than a few--fish, turtles, parakeets, gerbils, and a cat. The other cat just never came home.

My grandmother, great aunt, and a classmate died in the next two years.

I've known everything I've ever needed to know about dead since I've been 8 years old.
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Old 09-10-2017, 07:05 PM
 
Location: TX and NM on the border of the Great Southwest.
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Who was the first person you know who died?
I'm pretty sure it would be one of my great aunts when I was around 9 or 10. It seemed that we were always going to some great aunt or uncles's funeral in the late 1950s and early 1960s. In 1963 I was a pall-bearer at my uncle's funeral when I was 14. I was 14 years old.
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Old 09-10-2017, 08:14 PM
 
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Age: 8.
My maternal grandfather. It would have a profound effect thru out my life.
Four hours of trying to get an adult to help....
I'm living proof that kids are not always resilient...
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Old 09-10-2017, 08:15 PM
 
Location: Syracuse IS Central New York.
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First calling hour/funeral I attended was for a great-aunt. I was 9 years old at the time.
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Old 09-10-2017, 08:16 PM
 
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A friend of mine from first grade, died shortly after he turned 8. Hydrocephalus.
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Old 09-12-2017, 02:12 PM
 
Location: N of citrus, S of decent corn
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During the summer between 6th grade and jr high, a classmate died at camp after falling off a wall. I can still see her face, and that is over 50 years ago. Susan Enberg. At least she'll stay forever young.
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Old 09-12-2017, 03:38 PM
 
Location: NYC
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My sister died when I was 4. I don't really remember that. A grandfather died around the same time, don't remember much about that, either.

The first one I remember vividly is my dad. I was 8 years old. I can play back that whole time in my mind. Then an uncle the next year. Then family, friends, grandparents, distant cousins, 2 wives. more friends. I know more dead people than live ones.
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Old 09-13-2017, 07:31 AM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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When I was about 13, a good friend of my parents died unexpectedly, as the result of a heart attack. Over the next few years, a few of my friends' older siblings were killed in the Vietnam War.

Unfortunately, my parents were overprotective when it came to such things, and they did not allow me to attend wakes or funerals. They were very hush-hush about it when their friend died. The first dead person I ever saw was my mother, who died after a 4-day illness when I was 17. To this day, I wish my parents hadn't sheltered me from such things when I was growing up. I think it's important for children to learn early on that death is a natural part of our journey, it's okay to mourn, and dealing with it gives us closure.

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Old 09-13-2017, 03:50 PM
 
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My aunt died when I was about 4 and she was in her 40s. I loved her a lot but didn't really understand what had happened. She taught be how to play solitaire while sitting up in bed. When I think about it now, I wonder what was going on in her head when she knew she had cancer but had her niece up in bed with her playing cards.
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Old 09-13-2017, 04:20 PM
 
Location: alabama.
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my mothers father ,, he is on the right .. he is 99 at the time his younger brother on the left is 98 .. he died in 1966 .. i was 9 .. i remember the sadness in my mother ...picture does not seem to want to show ...
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