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Old 06-17-2018, 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted by chiluvr1228 View Post
My great uncle John died when I was about 10-12. His was the first open casket I saw and it haunts me to this day.
Had the same thing with me when I was about 8 with my grandpa.. I never saw a dead body before and it gave me bad dreams for years because it was fairly brutal to see. I am finally old enough now to understand why its done but now just wish he had lived longer and I remembered more of him alive than unfortunately his death.. He was a good man and I remember some things about him but not enough ultimately and unfortunately..

I get its a part of life but I have no desire to see dead bodies but have of course seen several others at funerals but I do not understand the concept at all to this day.
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Old 06-17-2018, 08:48 PM
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I have only been to one funeral, that of my friend's dad, but I hardly knew him.

Other than that, no relatives have died since I was born, and if one of my grandparents were to die soon it wouldn't be anything much since they already have lived a long life, plus I hardly know them anyways.
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Old 06-17-2018, 10:42 PM
Location: Majestic Wyoming
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My grandfather died when I was a teenager, but I barely knew him, and so it didn't bother me much. I didn't attend a funeral or anything.

In my early twenties my dad died of pancreatic cancer. His dying hurt me a lot, I still miss him very much. Again there wasn't a funeral or service, he was cremated and I don't even know where his ashes are.
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Old 09-07-2018, 05:20 PM
Location: Fredericksburg, Va
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My greatgrandmother was the 1st person I knew that died...I was 7 or 8...then my grandfather died, then a schoolfriend, (murdered), then various other older family members....it's part of life, is death.
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Old 09-07-2018, 05:41 PM
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I was 2 when my mother died and do remember my father being taken out on stretcher,heart attack at age 5
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Old 09-08-2018, 10:23 AM
Location: SWFL
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How terrible, DanBev! I am sorry. Did your Dad die too?
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Old 09-08-2018, 12:46 PM
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The first person for me was age 5 my great-grandmother who I didn't really know and we had moved 1,000 miles away so it was not an emotional event for me.

I was 30 before ever going to a family funeral, my father-in-law died suddenly of a heart attack (no history), my husband and I were at the house the day it happened but I never saw him. Ambulance came and much is a blur.

My family is not very emotional about funerals, they come if it's in the home state but don't expect people to show up otherwise.
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Old 09-08-2018, 12:49 PM
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my great-grandfather
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Old 09-08-2018, 05:03 PM
Location: TX and NM on the border of the Great Southwest.
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I honestly cannot remember although I do remember going to a lot of funerals as a small child.

If I had to guess, my first funeral would have likely been on of my great aunts. All eight of my great grandparents as well my dad's mom and dad had all died before I was born.
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Old 09-11-2018, 01:27 AM
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Early grade school my best friend who was in my class and lived a few houses up from
me was hit by a car. I do recall my father pulling me aside before school and I had a knot in my stomach as he started explaining why I wouldn’t see my friend that day and as he continued talking my stomach was in knots- his words were terrifying and confusing as I was very young to really understand what it meant but my stomach was telling me it was really big. He told me she wasn’t going to be in school, I asked why and he said you know I always tell you to be careful about cars . Stomach knotting. Then he said she wasn’t careful of cars so now she’s in a place called heaven. I think it’s a place she will come back like a vacation, he says no never. My first person I knew who died sadly was not a great grandparent but my best friend age six. When I think of her to this day the only feeling I have is affection kindness pure goodness
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