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Old 09-20-2018, 02:28 PM
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The first death I really remember at age 15 was when my high school best friend's mother died of breast cancer. This was many years ago when the treatment was certainly not as advanced as today. In fact, the type of cancer wasn't even discussed.

Strangely I don't remember the funeral. What I do recall vividly is helping my friend clean out her mom's closet to donate her clothes. Her dad was too grief stricken to do that. On the top shelf we found birthday presents and Christmas presents wrapped for my friend with beautiful letters. Still makes me cry.
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Old 09-20-2018, 02:31 PM
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Originally Posted by cremebrulee View Post
so sad & tragic...I am so sorry for your loss at such a young age.
Thank you so much. I always felt so sorry for my mama. He was the love of her life.
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Old 09-20-2018, 05:30 PM
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The earliest daeth I can seem to remember distinctly was when I was 5 years old, when my maternal great grandfather died at age 85 in 1959 (according to the cemetery records and his headstone) . . . so this means he was born in 1874. He was born in Russia - Poland (now a part of Poland, back then a part of Russia) and came to America likely in his early 20s (or late teens).

His wife (my maternal great grandmother) died at age 90 in 1965 (according to the cemetery records and her headstone) . . . so this means she was born in 1874 or 1875.

They both knew the world before there was electricity, plumbing (piped water), telephones, automobiles, powered flight (airplanes), moving pictures, radio, television, tall buildings, many medical advances and procedures that we take for granted, and a host of other things of the modern age. So it is amazing to me that I personally knew such people (as I would visit them as a very young child with one or both of my parents, hug them, see them at times at some family tree gatherings and formal occasions, et al) . . . people who were born before so many things had come into existence that we take for granted as being part of everyday life. They were born and grew up as children, teens, and partially as young adults in a non-urban remote area of Eastern Europe well enough removed from most of the trappings and features of modern civilization.

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Old 10-02-2018, 10:05 PM
Location: Planet Woof
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My maternal grandfather. I was about 4 years old.
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Old 10-07-2018, 01:52 AM
Location: Seattle some of the time now.
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My fatherís father when I was 19 years old. I still had my motherís parents & my fatherís mother. I didnít really know how to handle it because I had never known anyone who died before.

My parents died within four months of each other. They had been high school sweethearts. After that, many deaths of family & friends came in rapid succession, including my son. 😞 Now every time family or a close friend dies, another piece of me is chipped off & dies also.
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Old 10-07-2018, 02:10 PM
Location: SWFL
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So sorry to hear, NoNansea.
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Old 10-08-2018, 07:56 AM
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When I was in fourth grade, a girl in my class died. There had been a fire at her house one night and the whole family died--all 6 or 7 siblings and their mother.
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Old 10-08-2018, 08:06 AM
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My cousin Johnny died when I was about 10. I can't remember why, and to be truthful, I never liked Johnny that much. Still pretty sad. My grandfather died soon after. At 95, it wasn't that much of a surprise.
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Old 10-09-2018, 08:59 PM
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People often says that parents should never ever have to bury their children. Well, a 4 year boy should never have to bury his 25 year old mother either. Fate is cruel. If there is a God, he sure failed me.
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Old 10-12-2018, 04:50 AM
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When I was almost six, my grandfather died. I wasn't taken to the funeral, but I did go to the viewing with my parents and saw him in the casket. I didn't have the concept of death, then. My parents told me he was "sleeping". Later, when we went to his house, I looked for him and wanted to know where he was.

A year later, I was there when a neighbor and good friend of our family was electrocuted working with a drill on the top of his metal shed, right after a rain storm. I saw him covered up and put in the ambulance. I'd say that was my first "real" exposure to death.
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