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Old 09-15-2017, 03:36 PM
 
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So sorry for your loss. We recently lost a 25 year old autistic son (he was my step son) to an auto accident. The best advice I can offer is to be there for your sister. My wife has 2 sisters that are out of state, they both came up to see and support us. It was a big help

My wifes cousin that lives locally but we rarely see came to offer help and she and my wife cleaned and separated our sons stuff and cleaned up his room.

While it will be a long time (if ever) to recover, these 3 ladies helped immensely.
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Old 09-15-2017, 04:49 PM
 
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I'm so sorry for you. We just lost my cousin in an awful accident. The suddenness of it all is so hard to get hold of. I suppose that is the shock piece.


Hugs and prayers. Let people care for you while you are caring for others. That is important, too.
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Old 09-15-2017, 05:02 PM
 
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Sincerely sorry to hear of your loss. Impossible to prepare yourself for something that happens so immediate and tragic.
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Old 09-15-2017, 05:20 PM
 
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I am so very sorry. Such a tragic thing for one so young to be lost, and such a shock. Lots of us understand the feeling of unremitting pain. Come back and talk about this if that helps. Always willing to listen.
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Old 09-15-2017, 05:24 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I'm sorry.
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Old 09-15-2017, 06:36 PM
 
Location: Alexandria, VA, USA
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My beautiful 25 year old niece was killed in a car accident yesterday. Her family is still in shock but they are devastated. My family is too. I don't know what else to say. I can't sleep and the grief is literally a physical pain. We just buried our mother six weeks ago. I feel as if I'm losing my grip on reality.

Must hold it together to get my sister and her family through this. I'm very concerned about her. Sorry if this post is pointless. Just needed to make contact with people who would understand.
Dearest MaryMeriMarry: There are no amount of words that any of us can say that will alleviate your pain. Just work through this period of intense grief, and take comfort in knowing that in time, it will not be so painful to think of her. Take comfort also in knowing that as long as you still have memories of her in your heart, she will always be alive. If you believe in an afterlife, know that she has transitioned to another, better place where there are no more tears. If you do not, you must still know that her short life was not in vain, and that her existence made a difference to you and to others. It might help for you to do something in memory of her such as a charitable donation, a scholarship, or even planting a tree. Throw a gathering for her friends (like an Irish wake) where you all can laugh and cry. These are ceremonies to mark her passing and that help the living. I am so sorry for your loss...
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Old 09-15-2017, 07:12 PM
 
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My beautiful 25 year old niece was killed in a car accident yesterday. Her family is still in shock but they are devastated. My family is too. I don't know what else to say. I can't sleep and the grief is literally a physical pain. We just buried our mother six weeks ago. I feel as if I'm losing my grip on reality.

Must hold it together to get my sister and her family through this. I'm very concerned about her. Sorry if this post is pointless. Just needed to make contact with people who would understand.
Well, this is painful.

We have one niece who is everything to us, so I can imagine how awful this feels.

Sending a virtual hug and real prayers.

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Old 09-15-2017, 07:23 PM
 
Location: sumter
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My beautiful 25 year old niece was killed in a car accident yesterday. Her family is still in shock but they are devastated. My family is too. I don't know what else to say. I can't sleep and the grief is literally a physical pain. We just buried our mother six weeks ago. I feel as if I'm losing my grip on reality.

Must hold it together to get my sister and her family through this. I'm very concerned about her. Sorry if this post is pointless. Just needed to make contact with people who would understand.
Sorry your family loss, I'm sure it is a very painful thing to go through. You and your loved one will be in my thoughts and prayers, and I'm sending a hug your way.
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Old 09-15-2017, 07:39 PM
 
Location: Minnesota
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I'm so sorry. I may not know you, but I really empathize with your pain. Many hugs to you. Please keep reaching out, you shouldn't have to go through this keeping it all bottled up inside. HUGS
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Old 09-15-2017, 08:07 PM
 
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There are no words to convey how sorry I am about this tragedy your family is experiencing.
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