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Old 09-15-2017, 09:45 PM
 
Location: Under the Milky Way
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Sending my sympathy to you and your family, and wishing you all strength and comfort in the face of this terrible loss.
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Old 09-17-2017, 07:03 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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My beautiful 25 year old niece was killed in a car accident yesterday. Her family is still in shock but they are devastated. My family is too. I don't know what else to say. I can't sleep and the grief is literally a physical pain. We just buried our mother six weeks ago. I feel as if I'm losing my grip on reality.

Must hold it together to get my sister and her family through this. I'm very concerned about her. Sorry if this post is pointless. Just needed to make contact with people who would understand.
Your sister will need someone to listen to her. Try to be that person. She will need to talk and that won't end soon.
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Old 09-18-2017, 06:01 AM
 
Location: southern born and southern bred
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so sorry..............
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Old 09-18-2017, 11:43 PM
 
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Rough day today. We cleaned out the car which at this point barely looks like a car. Our beautiful girl didn't stand a chance. The owners of the car lot where it was towed were awful. We were sobbing uncontrollably and they refused us access until we paid over $500 in fees. Gave them their damn money and later arranged yo have the car moved elsewhere.

Then visited the scene of the accident. I didn't think this was a good idea but it was important to my sister so we went. We saw the skid marks and leftover debris from the accident. My sister is the strongest person I know to be able to do this.

Since then I've been angry beyond belief. Why why why why. I've had grief before but nothing like this. Hurts in every way.
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Old 09-19-2017, 06:15 AM
 
Location: Fairfax County, VA
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There will indeed be some rough days for a while. That's just normal grieving, so don't beat yourself up over any of it. Just know it as a part of the process. The pain and longing will never really go away (nor would most people actually want them to), but in time, the fact that your niece lived will become more important than the fact that she died. The ticking clock on the wall will be your ally here.
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Old 09-19-2017, 08:07 AM
 
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Since then I've been angry beyond belief. Why why why why. I've had grief before but nothing like this. Hurts in every way.
I remember feeling better talking about the accident and ruminating over how it could have occurred. Placing blame on the other driver (who was drunk) definitely helped.

Who was at fault? How did it happen?

Do you want to talk about it?
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Old 09-19-2017, 08:49 AM
 
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I remember feeling better talking about the accident and ruminating over how it could have occurred. Placing blame on the other driver (who was drunk) definitely helped.

Who was at fault? How did it happen?

Do you want to talk about it?
It was a single car accident. She was on her way home from work. Apparently she went off the side of the road, overcorrected, and then the car spun out out of control. We already know she was not on her phone and we are 99.9999999% certain the toxicology reports will show nothing.

Two more miles and she would have been safe. She was an experienced driver. It was daylight and weather conditions were fine. I still can hardly believe she's gone.
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Old 09-19-2017, 09:20 AM
 
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It was a single car accident. She was on her way home from work. Apparently she went off the side of the road, overcorrected, and then the car spun out out of control. We already know she was not on her phone and we are 99.9999999% certain the toxicology reports will show nothing.

Two more miles and she would have been safe. She was an experienced driver. It was daylight and weather conditions were fine. I still can hardly believe she's gone.
I'm so sorry. It hurts and it's so hard to understand why. Why was it her time? What could have possibly gone wrong? Why now when she was so young? Just why???????
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