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Old 09-16-2017, 09:42 PM
 
Location: Somewhere out there...
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My brother and his roommate were brutally murdered last weekend and the murderer's live in their building.
The detectives and police know who did it but do not have enough evidence yet and all I can think about, day and night is murder and how to slowly, painfully torture and kill these people.

I have to go to his apartment tomorrow to clean it out and one the suspects lives next door.

The suspects think they got away with it and that we do not know they did it.

How can I stop myself from killing him??

This is a serious question, I shake with grief and anger rage, I can not sleep, I lay awake and think of ways to hurt these people.
I do not think I will be able to not snap if I see him.

I know rage and revenge are normal feelings after a loved one is murdered but I can not think of anything else.
Retribution is constantly on my mind.
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Old 09-16-2017, 10:16 PM
 
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Get someone to go with you or ask for a police escort as you fear for your safety. If not, then don't go and put yourself in danger.

I am so sorry for your loss. How awful to have to go to the scene.
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Old 09-16-2017, 11:47 PM
 
Location: southern born and southern bred
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My brother and his roommate were brutally murdered last weekend and the murderer's live in their building.
The detectives and police know who did it but do not have enough evidence yet and all I can think about, day and night is murder and how to slowly, painfully torture and kill these people.

I have to go to his apartment tomorrow to clean it out and one the suspects lives next door.

The suspects think they got away with it and that we do not know they did it.

How can I stop myself from killing him??

This is a serious question, I shake with grief and anger rage, I can not sleep, I lay awake and think of ways to hurt these people.
I do not think I will be able to not snap if I see him.

I know rage and revenge are normal feelings after a loved one is murdered but I can not think of anything else.
Retribution is constantly on my mind.
you, of course are grieving and filled with rage over the circumstances but you are going to have to allow the police time to do their job. Even if the suspects are never arrested you cannot turn into a vigilante and a potential murderer yourself. This seems serious enough that you may need to see a therapist who can walk you through the varying stages of grief and how to cope, how to manage your anger.
I am so sorry for your loss. I can feel your pain through your words. I don't know if you are someone who relies upon prayers and Faith but if so now would be the time to lean on God. Pray, pray pray. I"ll pray for you and with you. Please though call a therapist ASAP. DO NOT go to your brother's apartment alone. In the meantime you always have your city data family to help you and to talk you through your feelings.
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Old 09-17-2017, 12:08 AM
 
Location: Sierra County
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Look up Romans 12:19


And my own hyptothesis is- Don't take this burden on yourrself. You did nothing wrong. Let it go. God will take care of this person. It's not your job to bear this burden.

I am praying for you. So sorry you are enduring this. Hang in there

Again, you are innocent. Don't take this burden onto yourself. Pray instead that justice be done.

Because prayer to the God of the Bible in Jesus name is more powerful than anything else you can possibly do.

Hang in there~
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Old 09-17-2017, 12:49 AM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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Get someone to go with you or ask for a police escort as you fear for your safety. If not, then don't go and put yourself in danger.

I am so sorry for your loss. How awful to have to go to the scene.
This. Go with a couple of people who will stop you from killing the neighbor. Do you really want to spend a few decades in prison? The food is terrible.

I'm sorry about the death of your brother. I think the saddest day of my life was when I heard that my eldest brother had died. He killed himself. He was more like my dad than my dad--who worked a lot.

I will never get over that, but his son, my nephew, is one of my best friends. He says that I remind him of his dad. Whatever.
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Old 09-17-2017, 01:14 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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The police should go with you and a friend. Maybe you need a little more time before you go?
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Old 09-17-2017, 01:45 AM
 
Location: El paso,tx
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Im so very sorry for your loss. I cant even imafine the rage you must feel towards the murderers. Get a police escort. Keep in mind that you don't want to do anything that might prevent the murderers from being charged and convicted. Don't do something that would put you at their level. Your brother would not want you spending your life in jail.
Don't speak to the suspects if you see them. You don't want to tip them off so they run.
When you are at apt, if you notice anything strange, bring it up to police. Or if you see any blood or weapons or things out of place. Might be a piece of evidence they need to convict them.
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Old 09-17-2017, 07:19 AM
 
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Hire a third party service. They will clean up the apt,and pack the belongings. It's worth every penny to spare a person this additional burden.

This loss is devastating. Be gentle to your spirit . My condolences.
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Old 09-17-2017, 08:57 AM
 
Location: Nebraska
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My brother and his roommate were brutally murdered last weekend and the murderer's live in their building.
The detectives and police know who did it but do not have enough evidence yet and all I can think about, day and night is murder and how to slowly, painfully torture and kill these people.

I have to go to his apartment tomorrow to clean it out and one the suspects lives next door.

The suspects think they got away with it and that we do not know they did it.

How can I stop myself from killing him??

This is a serious question, I shake with grief and anger rage, I can not sleep, I lay awake and think of ways to hurt these people.
I do not think I will be able to not snap if I see him.

I know rage and revenge are normal feelings after a loved one is murdered but I can not think of anything else.
Retribution is constantly on my mind.
I know exactly how you feel asitshould be. On 09/16/2009 a Nephew was murdered. At first the police were investigating his death as a suicide. However when the lead Detective told me about certain details it was obvious to me it was murder. Further investigation resulted in the arrest/conviction of his roommate, He got 50 to life. I worked as a prison guard at our local maximum security facility and I still have an idea of what is going on in the system, I have been assured by a couple of contacts that jammed out of the system that the scumbag that nurdered my Nephew is having a difficult time. I am hoping I outlive him so I can **** on his grave.

I hope the Police can find your brothers murderer and convict him. As tempting as it may be let the Police do their job. However if you have the time, resources and knowledge there is nothing preventing you from conducting your own investigation. Just make sure you don't obstruct or impede theirs.
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Old 09-17-2017, 09:09 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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My brother and his roommate were brutally murdered last weekend and the murderer's live in their building.
The detectives and police know who did it but do not have enough evidence yet...
This just happened last weekend, and they don't have enough evidence yet.

Give the police some time to work. Murder investigations are conducted thoroughly, evidence can take months to process, and police have to get all their facts together before charging someone. If the suspects weren't caught at the scene, it might take a little while before they're charged while blood samples or any other evidence go to crime labs and come back.

Stay in touch with the police department for updates on the investigation. You should appreciate that they're doing a thorough investigation and not rushing things based on emotion or hunches. If they say the case has gone cold, you might contact your state's investigative agency if you think there's reason to suspect the neighbor.
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