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Old 09-19-2017, 11:32 AM
 
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This is the hardest thing for me. I had a relative pass away a few weeks ago and the task fell to me to clean out her house.

This woman was definitely a collector, just shy of a hoarder and accumulated 85 years of items in a 1400 square foot space. I really don't want any of this stuff, save a few pieces of jewelry. None of my relatives want it either. So donate/dumpster is the option.

Unsentimental as I tend to be, it still always bothers me to throw out the collection of a lifetime. There is a lot of care that goes into what most people fill their houses with, and it just seems wrong to trash it. But as I have no room to store this stuff, nor use for it, that is the option in many cases. I know its just "stuff" but it meant something to someone I care about.

I guess the question is, is there anyone out there who feels this way too? What do you do about it? I have plans to start giving away my possessions as I get older, instead of getting more, so that someone doesn't have to come to this cross roads after I am gone.
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Old 09-19-2017, 11:39 AM
 
Location: Mayberry
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I agree, my Dad gave me several things after my Mom passed in 2007, he has a big house and lots of stuff and also a large shop with machinery, knife making things. I don't want my house to be a museum of my parents things. I've asked my Dad, hey lets clean out the basement. Nope. Now understand he is not a hoarder and the house is very neat and clean as is the basement and shop. But....what a job this will be, he is 88. My brother will deal with the shop, as he is a machinist also and a knifemaker.

I will be getting rid of things that I know he wants me to have, but I don't want.

Everybody talks about getting rid of things as you get older, but not my Dad
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Old 09-19-2017, 11:46 AM
 
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I agree, my Dad gave me several things after my Mom passed in 2007, he has a big house and lots of stuff and also a large shop with machinery, knife making things. I don't want my house to be a museum of my parents things. I've asked my Dad, hey lets clean out the basement. Nope. Now understand he is not a hoarder and the house is very neat and clean as is the basement and shop. But....what a job this will be, he is 88. My brother will deal with the shop, as he is a machinist also and a knifemaker.

I will be getting rid of things that I know he wants me to have, but I don't want.

Everybody talks about getting rid of things as you get older, but not my Dad
I don't think everyone does. I have so many relatives who just keep accumulating. I think they get lonely and the stuff helps fill the void. My mother's house was packed to the gills. It took weeks to clean and a huge dumpster the size of a tractor trailer was filled to the brim. I would not have called her a hoarder either, just someone who would buy lots of stuff. And she had a whole set of furniture from HER mom that she felt too guilty to throw away!
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Old 09-19-2017, 11:54 AM
 
Location: North State (California)
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OP, is it valuable enough to have an estate auctioneer come in & take everything away? If not, then be happy it can bring some hope to someone else, by donating it to a charity shop.
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Old 09-19-2017, 12:02 PM
 
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OP, is it valuable enough to have an estate auctioneer come in & take everything away? If not, then be happy it can bring some hope to someone else, by donating it to a charity shop.
We donated quite a bit and had an estate sale. It barely scratched the surface. Lots of dish towels with funny sayings or cutesy prints, trivets, mugs, cat calendars from years passed, old pots and pans, glasses, that kind of thing. Not a ton of value. And the charity shop close by had so much kitchen ware they were very picky about taking things. We threw away most of it and I feel badly.
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Old 09-19-2017, 12:04 PM
 
Location: North State (California)
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An animal shelter might need the towels. Don't feel bad, we can only do so much.
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Old 09-19-2017, 12:26 PM
 
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it still always bothers me to throw out the collection of a lifetime
Is it a true collection (collectible), or just an accumulation? If it's the latter, just get a shovel and a truck. Nobody wants it, just take it to Goodwill or the Salvation Army.
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Old 09-19-2017, 01:01 PM
 
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Is it a true collection (collectible), or just an accumulation? If it's the latter, just get a shovel and a truck. Nobody wants it, just take it to Goodwill or the Salvation Army.
A little of both in this case? People collect all kinds of things.
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Old 09-19-2017, 01:07 PM
 
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A little of both in this case? People collect all kinds of things.
If it's worth your time, check out eBay's Collectibles table of contents and see if anything there could be of some value. Like old lighters, ashtrays, etc. You'd be surprised at what people will buy off eBay.

What kind of stuff are we talking about?
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Old 09-19-2017, 02:42 PM
 
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Cut the cord and don't dwell on it. I would hire a cleaning /junk service and have them haul everything away in one afternoon.
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