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Old 02-14-2018, 04:15 PM
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Originally Posted by marino760 View Post
How ironic, two days after the book arrived I lost my precious boy. It became too obvious that he wasn't going to have another good day and stopped eating and I could see he was ready. I couldn't bear to see him hurting any more and took him to the vet one last final time.
Now I no longer hurry to come home from work to be with him. I'm no longer greeted by his kisses and happy face every day and the house is so empty. I've been slowly picking up his things and putting them away. His favorite ball will be saved as I'm certain he would have liked.
Although I keep thinking of the positive, about what a good life he had with me and where he may have ended up if I hadn't adopted him it's still hard, very hard.
First, my deepest condolences. I'm so sorry for you.

"How long is normal to grieve a pet?"

FOREVER. It's eleven years, two months, and eight days for me. I never had another pet afterward and never will. I give money I would have spent on pet food and vet bills to animal charities instead. It's my "new normal." Not only could I never replace this old animal-angel, having another pet after her would only remind me of her.

Mourning has become less over the years--until I find myself alone, thinking about the souls who made me the person I am. And then it's as if it was eleven years, two months, and nine days ago, and I considered myself the luckiest person alive, to have my friend, companion, and, yep, my baby.

I don't mean to discourage but to encourage you, because you may find in time that you can love another animal the way you loved this good friend. But if you can't, then remember this wacky poster who said on Valentine's Day that it's okay to mourn forever. Some loves just can't be replaced.

God bless.

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Old 03-07-2018, 04:53 PM
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My beloved Jack died on October 30, 2015 and he greeted me every time I came home from work...it will be 3 years this year, and I still can get quiet when I remember him especially when I had bad days...so don't worry, our pets are family.
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