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Old 10-31-2017, 08:02 AM
Location: USA
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My friend who has a mental age of a teenager is having a extremely hard time with the loss of his father. He does have an anger problem that seems to have got worse with an increase of emotional outbursts since his father died. I'm afraid one of these days he's going to hurt someone by lashing out at the person near him. Normally, he's just pounds on an inanimate object like a table or slaps himself. This is a problem I've heard he has struggled all his life. Other people have tried helping him.

My friend refuses to take medication thinking prayer will cure his anger problem and that he can try to control it. He blames it on the devil for his anger. I tried to explain to him that some Christians take medicine to balance their moods to help stay calm. He thinks talking to the Pastor will help. I think he would be better off getting help from a trained professional that deals with mental issues and anger management.

I don't if any of my friends that deals with him have talked to his family about his increase in emotional outbursts. I don't know his family so I wouldn't be comfortable talking about it with them. They never come around when I see him.
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Old 10-31-2017, 07:29 PM
Location: Somewhere in northern Alabama
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There are a number of different issues here. Bluntly, you aren't qualified to handle them. The best you can do is try to find someone who is, and hand it off. This is not just plain grief. If he thinks talking with a pastor will help, encourage that. It is not a disservice to talk with the pastor yourself and relate what you observe, and suggest that outside help can also be productive.
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Old 10-31-2017, 07:45 PM
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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Treat as anyone else...call, visit, provide support that everyone needs
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Old 10-31-2017, 11:39 PM
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I agree with Harry. I would call the pastor and tell him/her of your concerns. The pastor should be ready to refer your friend to professional help. The pastor might also be helpful in convincing your friend that his problems are not religious, but are related to his grief and stress in losing his father. There are people out there who are trained in assisting people with mental challenges, and I would think he needs that.
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