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Old 11-18-2017, 12:34 AM
 
Location: southern born and southern bred
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The other suggestion is to buy the book "We are not forgotten" by George Anderson. It doesn't matter if you are religious or not...its very comforting, helps explain why we are here, and offers hope. Everyone that I've given it to has truly found it really comforting.
True, I cannot stress enough how George Anderson's books-all of them will help anyone grieving or fearful about death. I know George and I'm honored to say so.
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Old 11-18-2017, 01:01 PM
 
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as a dad my heart goes out to you
I have a 3 yr old and often think how i would feel if he dies and it makes me shudder to just think about it

let me ask you something ( I apologize if its inappropriate) can you have more kids ?

if so have you thought about it ?

Again I' m just trying to help , I'm really really sorry for your loss


Thank you, but I would have to say no, and I appreciate it.
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Old 11-18-2017, 01:37 PM
 
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OP: One cannot HURRY any of this grieving and losses we go through.
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Old 11-18-2017, 01:51 PM
 
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having another child doesn't replace the one you lost. now i understand when my mom told me have kids they will be your future. i should have listened to her. now i'm too old. i'm in my 30s. i should have had a kid earlier.

regrets will eat me alive.
my mom always wanted to be a grandma.
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Old 11-18-2017, 04:49 PM
 
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I'm so sad for you. My heart breaks for your loss. Sending you love. Be kind to yourself.
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Old 11-18-2017, 08:21 PM
 
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now i'm too old. i'm in my 30s. i should have had a kid earlier.
The thirties is not too old to have a child. Are you saying it's too late because your mom has died, and you never gave her a grandchild while she lived? Not everyone is ready to have a child early on. If this is the right thing to do in your life, you can still pursue it. My father died before I had a child (and before I was married.) I was 26 when I lost him. I was 34 when my son was born. Do I regret that my father never had a grandchild? Well, I regret that my child never knew his grandfather, and that my father missed the joy of knowing my son. I think they would truly have loved each other. But we can't change these things in life. I will be forever grateful that I did have my son, even if my father never met him. There is a part of me that knows that Daddy and my son will meet one day, and that will be joyous!

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Old 11-18-2017, 08:58 PM
 
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I am so sorry. I have no words, but I said prayers for you.
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Old 11-19-2017, 02:57 PM
 
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Final post, I'm moving to the east coast next week. I appreciate every single word you've shared and I greatly appreciate them all. Thank you again, God Bless You all.

Tom
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Old 11-19-2017, 03:03 PM
 
Location: Lafayette, LA
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Final post, I'm moving to the east coast next week. I appreciate every single word you've shared and I greatly appreciate them all. Thank you again, God Bless You all.

Tom
JustaGuy, please check in occasionally to let us know how you're doing. Good luck with your move. Take care.
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Old 11-19-2017, 04:52 PM
 
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Final post, I'm moving to the east coast next week. I appreciate every single word you've shared and I greatly appreciate them all. Thank you again, God Bless You all.

Tom
Take care of yourself, Tom. I wish you the best in your move to the east coast. Please stay in touch. *Hugs*
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