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Old 11-27-2017, 12:48 AM
 
Location: Florida Gulf Coast
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I got a suspicious direct message from someone tonight. This person has zero posts and no profile, but said he/she had read about "my losses", and was also grieving from some losses and would like to be my friend. The name was generic and there was no city identified. I haven't posted anything about any losses lately, there was no link to a post of mine and when I have posted about a loss, it's *one* loss, not "losses".

I'm always getting those fake Facebook friend requests and now this sounds like it could be another scam. Maybe this person is trolling the Grief forum looking for vulnerable folks. Just wanted to let you guys know to be careful.
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Old 11-27-2017, 01:47 AM
 
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Thanks for that. I have received two friends requests through this forum over the years. I'm not sure what benefit it is to have the "friends" designation, so I have just ignored them. But yes, you are right to check them out.
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Old 11-27-2017, 03:04 AM
 
Location: San Francisco
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Thank you, Avalon08. I never accept FB or C-D friend requests from people I don't know.
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Old 11-27-2017, 02:18 PM
 
Location: Florida Gulf Coast
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Just to clarify, it wasn't a "friend request", it was a direct message. I suppose this person wanted me to message back and then who knows what would happen after that. I did not respond but a mischievous part of me wanted to play along. But I did want to warn my friends here because the "fellow griever" could be trolling us.
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Old 11-27-2017, 02:20 PM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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If I recognize the poster asking friendship I go along...anyone else, delete.
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Old 11-28-2017, 08:45 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Was this person a member, Avalon? I swear I have seen "non-member" on some nickname(s) before. Good call to ignore. Have you reported this to a head mod?

Thank you for posting the warning.
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Old 11-28-2017, 01:53 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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yes thank you Avalon . a lot of people contact me and I don't respond to them for this very reason . thanks for the heads up and this reminds us to keep aware of what is going on around us.
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Old 11-28-2017, 03:24 PM
 
Location: Kansas City North
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Was this person a member, Avalon? I swear I have seen "non-member" on some nickname(s) before. Good call to ignore. Have you reported this to a head mod?

Thank you for posting the warning.
If you are reading an old post, and the poster subsequently has deactivated their account, then it shows “not a member.”
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Old 11-28-2017, 10:17 PM
 
Location: Florida Gulf Coast
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Was this person a member, Avalon? I swear I have seen "non-member" on some nickname(s) before. Good call to ignore. Have you reported this to a head mod?

Thank you for posting the warning.
This person was a "junior member", zero posts, and now that I re-read his/her message, he/she actually joined "just because of me".....awwwww. I didn't report it *just in case* it was a real person, but seriously, this message could have been sent to any of us, because it's so non-specific (which post, which thread, etc.). And somebody just might fall for it.

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I read your post about your losses and I am so sorry. I, too am still grieving over my losses and would love to be your friend. Please message me if you are interested. I know I did not put up a profile yet and I just joined city data. I actually joined becasue of you..your post touched me much. Please take care...Sidellann
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Old 11-28-2017, 11:02 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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This person was a "junior member", zero posts, and now that I re-read his/her message, he/she actually joined "just because of me".....awwwww. I didn't report it *just in case* it was a real person, but seriously, this message could have been sent to any of us, because it's so non-specific (which post, which thread, etc.). And somebody just might fall for it.
I wouldn't like that at all, unless that person is planning to post about a loss and you inspired them.
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