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Old 11-30-2017, 05:00 PM
 
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It's hard to "put down" a beloved pet. Some people should simply never do it.
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Old 11-30-2017, 05:39 PM
 
Location: Fort Lauderdale, Florida
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No one will ever replace a lost loved one but people come in your life and fill different roles.

My heart goes out to you and I hope your burden lessens.
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Old 11-30-2017, 06:48 PM
 
Location: northern New England
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There used to be a saying I haven't heard for a while. "Life's a b**ch and then you die." I think you have to realize nothing is ever the same as time passes. No matter the circumstances you have to look at what you have, not what you don't. A month ago we put down our 17 year old chihuahua and my wife can't get over it. I've never seen her this desolate over the death of parents, family members, etc. Sometimes it just hits you and it takes a while.
Sometimes one loss, seemingly small, can recall all the other losses you have suffered in your life.
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Old 11-30-2017, 07:26 PM
 
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I suspect this is a big part of it. Also as empty nesters this was her baby.
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Sometimes one loss, seemingly small, can recall all the other losses you have suffered in your life.
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Old 11-30-2017, 08:02 PM
 
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Grief has no time line. Two and five years are still very recent. In my own case, the rawness of a loss (20 years ago) has never gone away. I don't believe it's gotten "easier" with time. I remember the person, celebrate his life, and still talk to him frequently. As time goes on you just accept your new reality and you do keep on living - and laughing and enjoying.
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Old 11-30-2017, 09:12 PM
 
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Grief has no time line. Two and five years are still very recent. In my own case, the rawness of a loss (20 years ago) has never gone away. I don't believe it's gotten "easier" with time. I remember the person, celebrate his life, and still talk to him frequently. As time goes on you just accept your new reality and you do keep on living - and laughing and enjoying.
So true and we have to keep in mind the ones who have left would NOT want us to suffer for them, they left in their time and so will we all.
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Old 11-30-2017, 11:23 PM
 
Location: interior Alaska
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I suspect this is a big part of it. Also as empty nesters this was her baby.
I think another reason the loss of a housedog hits people particularly hard is that they're constant companions, so you're constantly reminded of their absence. I've always found it helpful to get another dog soon after, not as a "replacement," but so there's that dog sound and presence around the place rather than a quiet chill.
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Old 12-01-2017, 09:29 AM
 
Location: No where Nebraska
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My heart goes out to you as my parents have been gone two years now and I'm an only child with no family.
Just to let you know others here care even if we don't know one another, there is still a connection.
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Old 12-01-2017, 10:21 AM
 
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True. We are retired for about 10 years and the dog was a constant presence day and night. We have considered it and looked at rescue puppies and dogs online, but we're just not ready yet, or maybe none of their pictures called out to us.

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I think another reason the loss of a housedog hits people particularly hard is that they're constant companions, so you're constantly reminded of their absence. I've always found it helpful to get another dog soon after, not as a "replacement," but so there's that dog sound and presence around the place rather than a quiet chill.
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Old 12-01-2017, 11:57 AM
 
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Thinking about this and I will be gone one of these days, I would NEVER want my only child to suffer and stop living, I wish her the best to go on with her life and children. We've had our ups and downs, but I love her and she's my child.

I've chosen NOT to have house pets but would miss my beautiful fig tree in my living room if it were gone. It's a living thing and I feed and love to see it growing and getting new leaves etc.
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