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Old 12-07-2017, 08:03 PM
 
Location: Houston
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Im 53 years old and lost my Dad nearly 2 years ago. It seems that Im constantly seeing him and my deceased grandparents and aunt in my mind. Not an obsession- mind you. Just picturing them doing things that go through my mind like eating, walking, smiling, talking with phrases that they used to say. Is this odd?
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Old 12-07-2017, 08:12 PM
 
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I do the same, particularly with my niece who died a little less than three months ago. I see her smile and sometimes hear her laugh. My grief is still raw and she's never far from my mind.

If this is odd I don't care. I miss her terribly.
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Old 12-07-2017, 08:14 PM
 
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My Mom passed Oct 9th. Have not seen her yet. I'm 57, she was 84.
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Old 12-07-2017, 08:14 PM
 
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No, not at all. I consider memories like that - everyday occurrences, the way they stood, the expressions on their faces, how they walked into a room, etc., to be really wonderful. When we know someone really well, we know how they would have reacted to things that happen and we "see" it. I don't think that's unusual or troubling in any way.
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Old 12-08-2017, 07:54 AM
 
Location: Finally the house is done and we are in Port St. Lucie!
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I love when I get glimpses of them in my mind. It makes me smile and I feel like they are watching over me.
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Old 12-10-2017, 02:08 AM
 
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I see my father and grandparents often. Something will bring them back to me in a very vivid memory and I swear I could smell my grandmother one night. Other times I'll remember a smile or facial expression or some mannerism or saying and it will come with sound and movement and color and aroma and I can be surprised how 3 dimensional a memory can be. It only lasts a moment, but it's a complete experience.
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Old 12-10-2017, 07:01 AM
 
Location: Arizona
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All the time. Some have been gone for 50 years.
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Old 12-12-2017, 03:33 PM
 
Location: northern New England
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I feel like I hear my late DH talking to me (not really hear, but imagine). Like him telling me what to do - say I want to hang on to an old hat of his, I hear him saying, "get rid of it!!"
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Old 12-12-2017, 05:09 PM
 
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Of course! It is perfectly normal to have memories of friends and relatives who have passed! And yes, just like VTsnowbird said, you will be thinking about what they might have said about something if they were still here.
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Old 12-12-2017, 05:14 PM
 
Location: East of the Mississippi and South of Bluegrass
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No, not at all. I consider memories like that - everyday occurrences, the way they stood, the expressions on their faces, how they walked into a room, etc., to be really wonderful. When we know someone really well, we know how they would have reacted to things that happen and we "see" it. I don't think that's unusual or troubling in any way.
This, for myself as well. Not troubling at all, but rather comforting.

Both of my parents, two of my brothers, my husband, a sister-in-law, a co-worker/girlfriend and many more wonderful and memorable people. All beautiful and many good 'living' memories/visions of each of them.

There are many more people who have gone from my life and this world too, but all of my memories of our interactions are enough to sustain me. They will be with me until the end of my time and I am so happy to have 'their company' during my moments of solitude.

Selfishly I hope I appear to my loved ones and close acquaintances after I depart.
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