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Old 12-18-2017, 10:02 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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I am doing a lot of guessing myself. Sigh! I have never seen that person until very recently, but others have described her on occasions "selective(ly) mutism".

Mostly the latter.
What is the age of this person?
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Old 12-18-2017, 04:48 PM
 
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In her thirties or forties.
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Old 12-20-2017, 07:48 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Perhaps this question would be better asked in the psychology forum since it is a psychological problem you are asking about. Again, in answer to your question, the answer is no.
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Old 12-20-2017, 10:06 AM
 
Location: Billings, MT
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There can be no answer, IMO.
How one handles grief is a very personal and individual process.
There can be no definitive one-size-fits-all procedure.
No matter how some "psychologists" attempt to make us all fit in the mold of their choice, it won't work. Humans are simply too individualistic.
Personally, I handle grief by getting past it and going on with my life.
I know others who become blubbering blobs of wreckage for days and weeks after a family tragedy. Some, even months or years.
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Old 12-20-2017, 10:35 AM
 
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There can be no answer, IMO.
How one handles grief is a very personal and individual process.
There can be no definitive one-size-fits-all procedure.
No matter how some "psychologists" attempt to make us all fit in the mold of their choice, it won't work. Humans are simply too individualistic.
Personally, I handle grief by getting past it and going on with my life.
I know others who become blubbering blobs of wreckage for days and weeks after a family tragedy. Some, even months or years.
For the first few months all I did was be that blubbering Blob (incoherent chatter at best), Thank goodness I had a "few" tolerant souls who regarded that phase. The first few days of initial shock were met with deep silence. There are NO words that come close to that level of sorrow so why even try to express it .
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Old 12-20-2017, 05:15 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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This. I lose my brain for a while. Good news! The lab called. Your brain is ready. Thankfully. I needed a new one. My mom, dad, eldest brother, and husband have died. Am I supposed to apt natural?
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Old 12-20-2017, 06:46 PM
 
Location: New Mexico
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Severe and prolonged grief can cause a chemical imbalance in the brain that might be manifested in different ways. I never heard it causing mutism. That doesn’t sound like what you are talking about.
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Old 12-22-2017, 03:29 AM
 
Location: The house I built
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Its been just 13 months since my wife passed. I am okay but I am still unable to talk with anyone about her without breaking down. And when I break down speech of any kind is extremely difficult. Talk to me about the weather and no issues.
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Old 12-22-2017, 08:17 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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So sorry, Steve.
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Old 02-07-2018, 08:08 AM
 
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Its been just 13 months since my wife passed. I am okay but I am still unable to talk with anyone about her without breaking down. And when I break down speech of any kind is extremely difficult. Talk to me about the weather and no issues.
I understand.
I think that's exactly why some people won't talk about deceased.
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