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Old 02-06-2018, 04:36 AM
 
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The cost of a funeral is what one is willing to pay. I have never understood the anger towards funeral homes regarding the cost. They are in business, just like everyone else. People seem to think funeral homes should give breaks and discounts. No. Go to a bank and get a loan. No different than buying a car or any other pricy item.


Or pre-arrange. It locks in the price.


I've donated my shell to science and when they're finished with me, they'll cremate me and sprinkle me in the campus flower beds.
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Old 02-06-2018, 01:16 PM
 
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The cost of a funeral is what one is willing to pay. I have never understood the anger towards funeral homes regarding the cost. They are in business, just like everyone else. People seem to think funeral homes should give breaks and discounts. No. Go to a bank and get a loan. No different than buying a car or any other pricy item.

Because they over charge and they prey on grieving people. If a funeral has not been pre arranged it is very hard for the grieving people to think straight. The funeral business takes advantage of this...maybe not all but many.

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Old 02-06-2018, 01:24 PM
 
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Yes, no funeral home necessary in Texas. You can do a home funeral
Our friend was dying and his sons made him a beautiful pine casket carved like he wanted. In Texas you do not have to be embalmed if buried within 24 hours of death. We buried him in a little country cemetary. A lot of them are free of charge. His friend with a tractor had dug the grave. It was a beautiful ceremony. Everybody told their stories about him. A lot of laughing with those tears.
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Old 02-06-2018, 01:35 PM
 
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Because they over charge and they prey on grieving people. If a funeral has not been pre arranged it is very hard for the grieving people to think straight. The funeral business takes advantage of this...maybe not all but many.
I agree. My dad's was preplanned and prepaid but the director came to our home and meet with the family and in our grief we change some of the things Dad had requested. Ended up costed us a lot but what I regret is my dad's wishes were not followed. The director is know to do this in other cases.
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Old 02-06-2018, 01:40 PM
 
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I agree. My dad's was preplanned and prepaid but the director came to our home and meet with the family and in our grief we change some of the things Dad had requested. Ended up costed us a lot but what I regret is my dad's wishes were not followed. The director is know to do this in other cases.
That is sad. Sorry to hear about that.
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Old 02-06-2018, 01:52 PM
 
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When my husband died with no pre planning I checked online. Local funeral home 22 miles away charged 450 to come pick him up. Twice the cost for cremation as the other funeral home I used. They had to come 100 miles and charged me $150.00 ad it was also after hours when they had to come get him.

I totally agree the funeral homes play on a persons grief to get more out of people. Working the cmeteries for so many years I saw it over and over. It is truth.
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Old 02-06-2018, 02:27 PM
 
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Morticians remind me of vultures.
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Old 02-06-2018, 03:27 PM
 
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Morticians remind me of vultures.

Me too. Sadly. My husband did not want me to use the local funeral home because we had too many dealings with them. Many were not good. Smooth talkers out one side of their mouth and savage out the other. And I was fine having my hubby here with me at home even though his spirit was gone an extra 2 1/2 hours. It gave me time to give him a more thorough bath and shave him which was not easy to do while he was in his recliner and still 190 or so pounds. YIKES I was afraid I was going to tip him out through the front room window. It even took the hospice nurses 1 1/2 hour to get here from where they were stationed. It was a nice peaceful time for us. He requested no funeral services nothing. He was gone it was over. I was also fine with that. We have no family. I am once again an orphan.
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Old 02-06-2018, 04:18 PM
 
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That is sad. Sorry to hear about that.
Thank you, ylisa. It was a life lesson. We have preplanned our funerals and have notified our kids where they can find instructions. Prepaid for most of what is needed and already have cremation bench set in the cemetery. We wanted to make things as easy as possible for our kids/grandkids.
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Old 02-06-2018, 04:19 PM
 
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Me too. Sadly. My husband did not want me to use the local funeral home because we had too many dealings with them. Many were not good. Smooth talkers out one side of their mouth and savage out the other. And I was fine having my hubby here with me at home even though his spirit was gone an extra 2 1/2 hours. It gave me time to give him a more thorough bath and shave him which was not easy to do while he was in his recliner and still 190 or so pounds. YIKES I was afraid I was going to tip him out through the front room window. It even took the hospice nurses 1 1/2 hour to get here from where they were stationed. It was a nice peaceful time for us. He requested no funeral services nothing. He was gone it was over. I was also fine with that. We have no family. I am once again an orphan.
So sorry for your loss, shades_of_idaho. How are you doing now?
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