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Old 02-04-2018, 08:00 PM
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Below is a poem which might bring some comfort to those who have lost a loved one:

Death Is Nothing At All
By Henry Scott-Holland

Death is nothing at all.
It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Nothing has happened.

Everything remains exactly as it was.
I am I, and you are you,
and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same as it ever was.
There is absolute and unbroken continuity.
What is this death but a negligible accident?

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval,
somewhere very near,
just round the corner.

All is well.
Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again!

Source: https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/po...-scott-holland
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Old 02-04-2018, 08:16 PM
Location: Wisconsin
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Originally Posted by peabodyn View Post
I lost both of my parents many years ago and used to torture myself with counting the years since they departed with each event that passed (the first birthday since, the first thanksgiving since) etc.

I saw the passage of time taking me further and further away from them, making me more sad with each passing year.

I finally realized, I will never be further away from them than the day they passed. If anything, I am getting closer to them, as I am getting closer each day to my own passing.

This worked for me and brought me peace.

I hope it brings you peace as well.
What a wonderful way of looking at things. Thank you for that suggestion.
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Old 02-05-2018, 08:48 AM
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Once you lose a parent you are never the same even if you didn't get along.

You get used to the changes over time. You become the grown up, without the psychological dependence on another person. Nobody to blame for our lives and nobody to look to for anything.
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