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Old 02-11-2018, 02:40 PM
 
Location: Polynesia
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My husband died suddenly in front of my eyes. I tried but could not revive him and by the time the ambulance came, he was gone. He was in his late 50s. He was a loving husband and hardworking businessman. He was excited about our future together.

I am lost, broken and so full of despair I cant breathe. I can't imagine life without him. We were so happy and completely in love and devoted to each other. I hate facing the world without him.

Friends and family have surrounded me. They are doing their best to help me and I'm grateful for them. But there isn't really anything they can do. They keep telling me that I am strong, and everything will be okay. But they are wrong. It's not going to be okay. I am not strong. Not at all.

The pain of going through life without my husband is more than I can bear.

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Old 02-11-2018, 02:47 PM
 
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Ah sweetie I am sorry.. How horrible...

I dont even know what to say and I do wanna say alot..... Im just so sorry,very scary and sad......

YOU ARE STRONG .. YOUR FRIENDS ARE RIGHT!!! - You can make it
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Old 02-11-2018, 02:52 PM
 
Location: S. FL (hell for me-wife loves it)
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Me too Butterflyfish. My heart goes out to you. Just know that you are in our thoughts, and we all hope you will be able to weather through this. Like Sandy, I am beside myself with what to say in such a situation, but I hope that you will be OK.
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Old 02-11-2018, 02:55 PM
 
Location: Santa Monica, Ca
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So sorry for your loss. My sincere condolences.
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Old 02-11-2018, 03:03 PM
 
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My most sincere condolences.

I have been there. Lost my wife of 25 years. I was a little better off than you as we were in our mid 40s with teenagers still at home so life had to go on. One kid however crashed terrible and added to the disaster.

30 years later it is still sad but not as bad as it was early on...you do recover even though you cannot believe it possible at the time.

So grieve and sorrow and then get on with life. Hard but you will not regret. I always figured it was what my well loved wife would have wanted me to do...I expect your husband would have the same view.
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Old 02-11-2018, 03:45 PM
 
Location: Polynesia
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Ah sweetie I am sorry.. How horrible...

I dont even know what to say and I do wanna say alot..... Im just so sorry,very scary and sad......

YOU ARE STRONG .. YOUR FRIENDS ARE RIGHT!!! - You can make it
Thank you for your kindness, sandy221.
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Old 02-11-2018, 03:47 PM
 
Location: Polynesia
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Me too Butterflyfish. My heart goes out to you. Just know that you are in our thoughts, and we all hope you will be able to weather through this. Like Sandy, I am beside myself with what to say in such a situation, but I hope that you will be OK.
Thank you, Terradown. There is nothing you can say, but that you reached out to me, is enough.
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Old 02-11-2018, 03:49 PM
 
Location: Polynesia
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So sorry for your loss. My sincere condolences.
Thank you Sydney123
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Old 02-11-2018, 03:52 PM
 
Location: Polynesia
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My most sincere condolences.

I have been there. Lost my wife of 25 years. I was a little better off than you as we were in our mid 40s with teenagers still at home so life had to go on. One kid however crashed terrible and added to the disaster.

30 years later it is still sad but not as bad as it was early on...you do recover even though you cannot believe it possible at the time.

So grieve and sorrow and then get on with life. Hard but you will not regret. I always figured it was what my well loved wife would have wanted me to do...I expect your husband would have the same view.
Thank you for sharing your story, lvmensch. Life can be so difficult, I hope your children are well and happy.
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Old 02-11-2018, 04:05 PM
 
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Butterflyfish, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing a beloved spouse and to have it happen right in front of you ...wow. I have nothing to offer but a virtual hug.
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