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Old 02-27-2018, 03:54 PM
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Originally Posted by PriscillaVanilla View Post
When my mom passed some of her sisters wanted to air their grievances to me about things she'd said and done in her lifetime. On the phone, the same day of her death. Thinking back now, I find it a little disgraceful to be airing their grievances before the person is even cold in the ground. I knew they didn't always get along well during her life time. My mom was also diagnosed with an emotional disorder and had conflicts with a lot of people quite often. What does anyone here think about airing grievances against a person who has just passed away?

I completely agree with you. And I think it's a chicken **** thing to do as well. I've always thought "If you had an issue with so and so, you should've taken it up with them when they were alive. Not when they can't defend themselves."

I also feel the same about movies that trash someone who's died. Like the movie "Mommy Dearest".
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Old 02-28-2018, 10:00 AM
Location: SWFL
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Originally Posted by PriscillaVanilla View Post
That's very similar to what I went through. Hard to get support when so many people held grudges against my mother. They should have talked to a counselor about these issues - or anyone else, really - instead of unloading them onto me.
I feel your experience was a little worse than mine, PV, your aunts blindsided you whereas I unintentionally did it to myself by calling these "friends ".

I am sorry for what they did to you.
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