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Old 07-14-2018, 12:39 AM
Location: New Mexico
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My 50th high school reunion was a while back and most people were no-shows but there were several who died in the past few years. We are closing in on 70 so it shouldn’t be surprising. We scattered all over the country so most of us have only a few contacts. It serves as a reminder on aging and health issues. I wouldn’t want the job of trying to track down old school mates. I’ve had a couple people contact me on Facebook from school or college and then totally disappear a few months later and not respond to any messages.
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Old 08-18-2018, 05:29 AM
Location: Worcester MA
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Just the other day I googled my former boss in Wisconsin from over 20 years ago and found out she had passed in December from cancer at the age of 73.

My old boss and I went to the same college and she hired me on the spot after my interview. I had low self-esteem, came from a dysfunctional family but she was a person who saw positive attributes in me and gave me a chance.

It saddened me to realize we'd never have a chance anymore to "catch up", even though in reality I'd probably never would have even spoken to her again. RIP, sorry I didn't visit you before you passed.
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Old 08-20-2018, 03:48 PM
Location: Islip,NY
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No but I had a Uncle who did this. We weren't close with him but he saw in an obituary that my dad died and called us about it. It was my dad's BIL who he couldn't stand and he made it very clear to us before he died not to tell him.
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Old 08-20-2018, 06:29 PM
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Location: USA
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I wouldn’t say we were friends but I was stationed with a sgt who used to give me a lot of grief but I respected him so much. He could never figure out how a redneck from the Deep South knew more about jazz than he did as an African-American. I always laughed when he said that but I could my being from the south was a handicap for our relationship. Despite that, I treated him with respect for the man and his rank. He was a good guy despite his misgivings for me.

The last time I saw him was 1980.

About four years ago, I googled him and found his obituary. It made me sad that we weren’t able to reconnect so I could pass on the fact that I respected him so much but, luckily, I contacted his wife via FB and we’ve become friends. She’s remarried, has grandkids and seems quite happy. I’m happy for her - “Phil” died of brain cancer and I know it was so tough on her. To bad none of us have a glass ball to see the future.
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Old 08-25-2018, 04:27 PM
Location: WA
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Yeah...A coworker that I was friends with in the 90's got married and moved to NZ. We kept in touch for awhile but then lost touch. Recently I decided to look for him on Facebook and found out that he died "suddenly" a few years ago at around age 57 or so. I was shocked....he was always thin, in good shape, type B personality. I assume it was probably a heart attack but don't know what happened. It was strange and I felt a bit sad.
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Old 08-25-2018, 06:15 PM
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Yes. I had a friend in college who had a lot of struggles. She had a crazy ex-fiancé, went through some troubles with anorexia and had to go to inpatient rehab, then became an escort. She seemed to have a lot of troubles and I was hoping she got her life back on track. I looked her up a few years after I had graduated and learned that she had been killed (presumably by that crazy ex-fiancé) in a murder-suicide when she was in graduate school. It was really tragic and shocking when I read that since I thought she’d safely gotten that ex out of her life. I guess she had not or she had met *another* equally crazy guy.
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Old 08-25-2018, 07:21 PM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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After my divorce, I did the online dating thing. It was still fairly new, in the early 00s.

Saw one guy for maybe four months, mostly on weekends. We were both divorced with one young kid, and his lived out of state but he said at the outset that he and his ex were talking about the son coming to live with him now that he was 12.

It was a nice relationship after an abusive marriage. He treated me nicely, and even did little things my ex never did like hold my hand when we went out. We spent a lot of time just listening to music. It was lovely and different after sixteen years of drunken drama and abuse. And healing. I started to feel semi-normal again.

Then one day he told me that he and his ex had decided that it was time for his son to come live with him and he was coming the following week. He said he didn't think he was going to be able to manage a relationship while he and his son adjusted to their new life. It made sense, and we parted friends.

A few years ago, he crossed my mind and I wondered whatever happened to him. I did a Google search and up popped his obituary. It was kind of sad to see. He could only have been in his 50s. But, there was a beautiful message left on the website from a woman who loved him and said that those last few years with him had been wonderful and that she would love him forever. I was happy that he had found someone over time, but still sad to know he'd died relatively young.
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