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Old 03-15-2018, 12:26 PM
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Originally Posted by SunGrins View Post
I think I have a somewhat reduced capacity for expressing gratitude and feeling empathy but the fact that I recognize that trait in myself tells me that I am not wholly without that capacity. I know what it is but seem to look beyond it to some practical response like a problem-solving task. I have to remind myself to show gratitude and even attended a class recently on experiencing gratitude. Empathy is much the same and I fear that it is sort of mechanical or robotic when I try to express it.
That is interesting but isn't expressing gratitude pretty much a thank you? Or is it that you don't actually appreciate certain things that you feel you should? I guess I don't expect much so when someone is kind or generous or helpful I feel grateful and automatically express it, maybe too much sometimes.

Empathy/sympathy I think is more tricky I think, I know I have said the wrong thing a time or two.
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Old 03-15-2018, 09:19 PM
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Originally Posted by loves2read View Post
I agree with most of your comment but have a qualification--
You make it sound like you either have one or the other---that if you are emotional you lack empathy--
I think maybe you misstated your concept...and meant they are independent traits--not tied to each other.
Yes, it was meant that the two traits (empathy and being emotional) are independent of one another. A person can be empathetic and their actions reflect this yet not be an emotional person. It would be less common to have a person be emotional and not empathetic. The two traits can be tied to each other but aren't always. Thanks for allowing me to clarify this.
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