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Old 03-16-2018, 09:41 AM
 
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One family is a family I've been following on Facebook for the last 3 or 4 years. Their little boy had a large branch fall on him when he was 2 yrs. old. That almost killed him. But he lived, and although he had his struggles, and he had permanent impairments, had an adorable smile, and a large extended family that loved him.


He died yesterday.




The other family: A lady I work with was going to be a first time grandma. The baby girl was going to be induced on Thursday. But at some point within the last few days, she died in utero. The family was unaware that anything was wrong until the mother was going to be induced, and they couldn't find a heartbeat. She was full-term.


The grandma came in to pick up her check, and she showed me pictures of the baby. She was so pretty. Round and full little cheeks, and bright red hair. The family, and grandma are devastated, and I'm...sad.


My grief is nothing like theirs...but I just want to express it anyway.
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Old 03-16-2018, 10:30 AM
 
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You are a sensitive and empathetic person and therefore you grieve for others. I wish others, including myself, were more like you.

So sorry to hear about that -- somehow I think death is always worse when it comes to very young children. Just so sad.
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Old 03-16-2018, 12:17 PM
 
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That's a lot of sad news, even if it didn't affect you personally. My heart goes out to you and your friends.
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Old 03-20-2018, 09:25 PM
 
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You are a sensitive and empathetic person and therefore you grieve for others. I wish others, including myself, were more like you.

So sorry to hear about that -- somehow I think death is always worse when it comes to very young children. Just so sad.
Trust me, you don't want that. It takes many years to learn how to deal with it.
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Old 03-20-2018, 10:20 PM
 
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One family is a family I've been following on Facebook for the last 3 or 4 years. Their little boy had a large branch fall on him when he was 2 yrs. old. That almost killed him. But he lived, and although he had his struggles, and he had permanent impairments, had an adorable smile, and a large extended family that loved him.


He died yesterday.
How did he die? What state?

Grief by association is real but it is very different from knowing and being a part of the everyday life of that person.

Sorry you feel the grief and loss.
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Old 03-21-2018, 03:24 AM
 
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That's a lot of sad news, even if it didn't affect you personally. My heart goes out to you and your friends.
Its sad isnt it how most people dont care about how others feel......


Im so sorry Sassybluesy
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Old 03-21-2018, 07:14 AM
 
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How did he die? What state?

Grief by association is real but it is very different from knowing and being a part of the everyday life of that person.

Sorry you feel the grief and loss.

His name was Trip Halstead. The family lived in Georgia.


Yeah, my grief isn't like theirs. My grief has already dissipated quite a bit, several days later...although still pained for the families.


Their grief has left them in shock, and left them devastated, and I don't think you ever really get over losing a child.
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Old 03-21-2018, 09:11 AM
 
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His name was Trip Halstead. The family lived in Georgia.


Yeah, my grief isn't like theirs. My grief has already dissipated quite a bit, several days later...although still pained for the families.


Their grief has left them in shock, and left them devastated, and I don't think you ever really get over losing a child.
There was a child in Virginia who died the same way. I thought it might have been him.

The loss of a child is just so sad.
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Old 03-21-2018, 11:53 AM
 
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I once knew a gal that was told baby died in utero, but for some reason I cannot remember, had to carry out the rest of the pregnancy.

She walked around with a dead child in her for awhile. She mentioned one of the hardest parts of it occurred when, while out and about, some stranger would approach her all jolly about her belly and future birth of baby. She never set them straight. She just took it.

Can you imagine the trauma? Sheesh!

OP, terrible thing you mentioned. Just terrible.

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Old 03-21-2018, 01:33 PM
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Its sad isnt it how most people dont care about how others feel......


Im so sorry Sassybluesy
I don't think that's a true statement. I hope not.
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