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Old 04-14-2018, 09:39 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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I resented the care my husband had so much. It added to my grief. I am still torn about this part of my own story. Its hard to forgive.
I have such a story of my own and I have gone from thinking hospices were wonderful, to I wouldn't take a dog there. At least the one my husband was in for 2 1/2 days before he died. It did indeed add to my grief. Hard to forget too.
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Old 04-14-2018, 02:11 PM
 
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How does one delete a Thread once the discussion is finished? The Edit function doesn't seem to work, and I can't contact the Moderator per feedback for this issue. Thanks!
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Old 04-14-2018, 04:40 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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How does one delete a Thread once the discussion is finished? The Edit function doesn't seem to work, and I can't contact the Moderator per feedback for this issue. Thanks!
I do not believe that you can delete a thread, but, I think that you can request a Moderator to close a thread that you have started.
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Old 04-14-2018, 07:21 PM
 
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So sorry for your loss. My husband passed 10 months ago from cancer. He was diagnosed and passed in 1.5 months. I lost my best friend and the love of my life. I believe the cancer and chemo causes the hallucinating. His last two days went between total lucidity and hallucinating. He was not on pain meds as they were treating him for infection. Although he only had two chemo treatments, the second one caused tumor lysis which basically caused the cancer to go throughout his body. This was a recurrence of cancer from 10 years before. He was in ICU and they provided comfort care as the cancer had a poor prognosis, his heart was only working at 10% and his bladder was shedding. I am thankful for the doctors and nurses who gave him a peaceful passing.
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Old 04-14-2018, 10:49 PM
 
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my condolences for your loss. it leaves a void where your unique relationship with your beloved is really hard to imagine can happen again.
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Old 04-14-2018, 10:56 PM
 
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my sweetheart was a wonderful man. so many memories. i agree it's important to remember what a great thing it is to have experienced them in your life. when i met him he was a Buddhist, and went out of his way to care about others, making friends wherever he went. he encouraged heartfelt connections and could be silly as well as serious. amazing person, introducing me to new ways of thinking and doing. we can honor our loved ones by continuing what they bring out in us and what have wanted us to be able to continue with them.
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Old 04-15-2018, 02:34 AM
 
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I am so sorry for your loss also Ellwood
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Old 04-19-2018, 11:32 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I have such a story of my own and I have gone from thinking hospices were wonderful, to I wouldn't take a dog there. At least the one my husband was in for 2 1/2 days before he died. It did indeed add to my grief. Hard to forget too.
I'm so sorry. My hospice experience was wonderful. Mom didn't appreciate it because her brain was 80% dead. My nephew I were there for most of the week that she was. Her family doc visited daily, and the retired pastor from her church only misses one day.

Don't tell anyone, but we popped a bottle of Champagne and a couple of nice craft beers in her her room.
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Old 04-26-2018, 07:41 AM
 
Location: northern New England
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I am sorry for your loss. My DH suffered from hallucinations over a week before he died of cancer - it was caused by elevated levels of calcium in the blood, which was caused by the cancer. In some ways I am glad he did not know he was facing death as it really scared him, although he did regain lucidity enough to discuss and agree with a DNR. That made it easier on me as the staff was pressing me to sign it.

I also had a good experience with Hospice (in our home) although it lasted only 24 hours.
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