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Old 05-08-2018, 01:14 PM
 
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My mom still missed and cried after her own mother until she died. I never met my grandmother she died 4 years before I was born. If my mom cried for her for 3 plus decades... that tells me that I will never get over losing her. ever.

i was born december 26, my grandma died december 29... she said it made it a little better since i was her pride and joy...

RIP mommy.
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Old 05-08-2018, 10:35 PM
 
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I am so sorry for all of your losses, I truly am.
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Old 05-09-2018, 10:08 AM
 
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My mom still missed and cried after her own mother until she died. I never met my grandmother she died 4 years before I was born. If my mom cried for her for 3 plus decades... that tells me that I will never get over losing her. ever.

i was born december 26, my grandma died december 29... she said it made it a little better since i was her pride and joy...

RIP mommy.
True, Jayden. My Mom would still cry over my Nana 30 years after the fact too. It is something that will NEVER GO AWAY, we only manage to bury it, hide it, learn to live with it. BUT it is a natural circle of life process. Also that sadness is normal too. Not too many people would not love to have their Momma around for all their lives. Or Daddys too for that matter.

My mom is in my mind and heart every day of the year, not just one and as I have said earlier, I just do not let Hallmark get to me. I don't dwell on that she is not physically here, I have her with me 24/7/365. It's tough but it can be done and must be done. Everyone has to go through it.
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Old 05-09-2018, 10:09 AM
 
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Thank you, eric.
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Old 05-09-2018, 04:14 PM
 
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I do admit getting a bit envious when I see people in their 70's bury their mom or dad. I only got 9 years; can't imagine what a joy it would be to have the option for over 70 years of just asking her how her day went...
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Old 05-09-2018, 04:20 PM
 
Location: North State (California)
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HUGS to all. I try not to concentrate on the day, & do something else.
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Old 05-10-2018, 03:49 PM
 
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I do admit getting a bit envious when I see people in their 70's bury their mom or dad. I only got 9 years; can't imagine what a joy it would be to have the option for over 70 years of just asking her how her day went...
I am so sorry that you only had 9 years with your Momma, pic. I can't imagine life growing up without her. The only thing I can think of is you had those 9 years. Some children never even knew their Mom. As bad as we each individually think we have it bad or got a bum deal, there are others who have it worse. That thought helps me put my life in perspective.
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Old 05-10-2018, 05:55 PM
 
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This will be the 25th Mothers Day I have been without my mother. She died 26 years ago. It has gotten better with time but the sadness and emptiness are still in there. Especially now that I am an adult orphan. I seem to be able to ignore most of the commercials on tv for most of the special days geared to selling. I don't let them bum me out. Life has proceeded as it should. I buried them, not vice versa.

OP and others whose grief is fresh, I am very sorry for your moms' passings. It will get easier if you let it, I promise.

Hugs to all.

My mom died 25 years ago. There were 4 of us kids in my family, Im the youngest. You just dont realize until she's gone, how much that she was the focus and energy. especially during the Holidays, There's a piece missing, a void there that never goes away. They were married for 39 years. Im sure it was tough for my dad, but all he worried about was us.
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Old 05-12-2018, 01:21 AM
 
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I lost my mom 3 weeks ago. I have been kind of numb about it. I have waves of grief and then I'm just kind of numb. Today I had a wave of grief. We are settling her estate and its getting tense with my siblings.

My first thought was to call my mom. I mean how ridiculous is that? We are settling her estate you would think that would be a reminder. Its just I have always been the buffer between my siblings. I'd always call mom and say, do you know what your other kids are doing? It was kind of a joke but it was nice to vent to her. Mom and I could always talk about things.
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Old 05-12-2018, 07:54 AM
 
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I'm very sorry to hear about your mom, fallingwater. 26 years and I still have the urge to call Mom sometimes. l don't think that urge will ever go away completely. It's only 3 weeks!!!
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