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Old 05-26-2018, 07:19 PM
 
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I'm very odd. I'm over 60 and never been to a funeral. Been to one "viewing" but that was by accident, something I just had to do cause I was with my dad at the time.

I did not go to any aunts, uncles, grandparents or parents funerals.

My goal is to never go to a funeral. The only one I'd go to would be my wife's. My sister is still alive as is my step-mom and half sister but everyone else is dead.

My friends know my policy. I don't "do" funerals.

Why? I think they're dumb. Sorry, but that's just my opinion.

I do grieve the people who meant something to me after they die. But just not in public, not at funerals or viewings.

I know people like me are very rare in this respect!
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Old 05-26-2018, 07:26 PM
 
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I'm very odd. I'm over 60 and never been to a funeral. Been to one "viewing" but that was by accident, something I just had to do cause I was with my dad at the time.

I did not go to any aunts, uncles, grandparents or parents funerals.

My goal is to never go to a funeral. The only one I'd go to would be my wife's. My sister is still alive as is my step-mom and half sister but everyone else is dead.

My friends know my policy. I don't "do" funerals.

Why? I think they're dumb. Sorry, but that's just my opinion.

I do grieve the people who meant something to me after they die. But just not in public, not at funerals or viewings.

I know people like me are very rare in this respect!
especially don't attend yours!
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Old 05-26-2018, 07:58 PM
 
Location: S.W. Florida
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At least 10, but I donít want to think about it hard enough be certain of the number.
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Old 05-26-2018, 08:05 PM
 
Location: North State (California)
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6 or 7 family funerals, & about the same for informal memorial gatherings
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Old 05-26-2018, 09:56 PM
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Location: Coastal New Jersey
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I'm surprised at some of the people my age who have been to so few (I am 59.) I have to have gone to at least 25, 30 funerals in my life. Maybe more.

Went to one big memorial service for 84 coworkers who died the same day.

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Old 05-26-2018, 11:14 PM
 
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Old 05-27-2018, 02:05 AM
 
Location: South Park, San Diego
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0 as well. I’ll be 57 next month. I’ve been to several memorials, but no funerals. Of course I can’t imagine most folks would ever say they enjoy funerals, except for that family gathering potential which some people thrive on, but for me, I can’t see any positive reason to go to one. I’ve never been formally invited to one either.
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Old 05-27-2018, 03:21 AM
 
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For me, I think funerals are part of the circle of life. There is nothing negative about them. I will give an A+ to my Catholic School upbringing. When someone would die--a student's parent/nun/priest--our class would go to a funeral Mass--it was closure.

Never would I use the word thrive on the family gathering potential. I would say that when our family has a Wake--it is a celebration of the person's life. We laugh, we sing, we cry--we are there to support the family. I think it serves as a buffer between the end of life and the beginning of a new life for the survivors.
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Old 05-27-2018, 07:11 AM
 
Location: northern New England
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I'm very odd. I'm over 60 and never been to a funeral. Been to one "viewing" but that was by accident, something I just had to do cause I was with my dad at the time.

I did not go to any aunts, uncles, grandparents or parents funerals.

My goal is to never go to a funeral. The only one I'd go to would be my wife's. My sister is still alive as is my step-mom and half sister but everyone else is dead.

My friends know my policy. I don't "do" funerals.

Why? I think they're dumb. Sorry, but that's just my opinion.

I do grieve the people who meant something to me after they die. But just not in public, not at funerals or viewings.

I know people like me are very rare in this respect!



I have a relative like this. She just does not do funerals. BG - when she was a young wife, a child died of crib death. She wanted the service to be very private but someone invited the whole family and they all showed up, to her great chagrin.



I think she put it well when she said, "People don't come and look at me when I am sleeping, why should they come and look at me while I am dead?"


Personally, I know a lot of my relatives have died but with few exceptions I can't remember which funerals I went to. My mom's, when I was a child. And my dad's many years later. Also a cousin who was a young adult, I was 12. My father-in-law's. Latest one was my aunt/godmother.



When my DH passed, he was cremated, later that summer we had an "ashes at sea" ceremony and a meal at a restaurant. Two of his four kids (and their families) managed to show up.
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Old 05-27-2018, 08:15 AM
 
Location: Northern Maine
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All four of my grandparents, my parents, my wife's parents, all of my aunts and uncles, some cousins and some friends; fellow veterans and others which leaves me as the oldest with my family name. Then last year my wife of nearly 53 years passed away.

It is important to have young friends. Otherwise, when you end up in my situation you won't have anybody.
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