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Old 05-28-2018, 08:22 PM
 
Location: USA
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Well I've been to many funerals in my life and a pallbearer for several. My grands and parents are deceased as my aunts and uncles. I have one living uncle and one living aunt who aren't married or related.

Thankfully everybody did their funeral their way and there was no bickering or squabbling. I don't know if I want so much fuss when my time comes, but I will let the survivors decide if they want something extra.

Funerals are indeed sad, however, many of the deceased folks don't want or expect so much sad feelings; they want you to get on with your life. That is the kindest thing you can do for them.

Sorry for the grieving some of you folks had. But take heart; we all react differently to death. There is no wrong or right when it comes to this. You just did what came from your heart. It may be hard for others to understand, but do not worry about it. If they can't accept what you laid on the table, tough. We all want to be our best to everyone, but with emotion that is not always possible.
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Old 05-29-2018, 02:15 AM
 
Location: Round Rock, TX
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Just about 1 thankfully, I just get too uncomfortable seeing a dead body. I almost went to another 1 doe.
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Old 05-29-2018, 04:37 AM
 
Location: north narrowlina
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the point of this very odd question is what?????????????????????????????? i think this is one instance i do not feel like baring my soul..... or my losses. it just seems rather invasive and a tad bit peeping-tommish. I can't imagine why you would ask this.
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Old 05-29-2018, 09:22 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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the point of this very odd question is what?????????????????????????????? i think this is one instance i do not feel like baring my soul..... or my losses. it just seems rather invasive and a tad bit peeping-tommish. I can't imagine why you would ask this.
Although I at first was taken aback by the question and thought it might be a troll post, I see many people who are not dealing with grief have responded. I had no idea people who were not dealing with grief, meaning not having recently lost a loved one, are reading this forum! THAT I find peeping-tommish! I actually feel violated! Silly but that's how I feel. Good thing I didn't realize this when I WAS going through my grief. That's silly because this is a public forum but I would NEVER think to come in and read about people's tragedy.
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Old 05-29-2018, 01:12 PM
 
Location: Wisconsin
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Although I at first was taken aback by the question and thought it might be a troll post, I see many people who are not dealing with grief have responded. I had no idea people who were not dealing with grief, meaning not having recently lost a loved one, are reading this forum! THAT I find peeping-tommish! I actually feel violated! Silly but that's how I feel. Good thing I didn't realize this when I WAS going through my grief. That's silly because this is a public forum but I would NEVER think to come in and read about people's tragedy.

Just because you have not had a recent loss does not mean that you are not suffering grief. Everyone's grief and it's timetable is different. Even before my husband's recent death, I occasionally visited this forum because of the difficulty I had accepting my mother's death many years ago. I did not come as a voyeur but to get comfort from what other people had written, and to share words of comfort to others.
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Old 05-29-2018, 10:04 PM
 
Location: USA
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Just because you have not had a recent loss does not mean that you are not suffering grief. Everyone's grief and it's timetable is different. Even before my husband's recent death, I occasionally visited this forum because of the difficulty I had accepting my mother's death many years ago. I did not come as a voyeur but to get comfort from what other people had written, and to share words of comfort to others.
Absolutely.
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Old 05-30-2018, 11:59 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Just because you have not had a recent loss does not mean that you are not suffering grief. Everyone's grief and it's timetable is different. Even before my husband's recent death, I occasionally visited this forum because of the difficulty I had accepting my mother's death many years ago. I did not come as a voyeur but to get comfort from what other people had written, and to share words of comfort to others.
I accept your explanation for that, germaine. That person I was responding to just set me off. Of course this forum was brandy new when I stumbled upon it.
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Old 05-30-2018, 01:05 PM
 
Location: Grosse Ile Michigan
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Eight that I can identify and probably one more I am forgetting. (Both grandmas and grandpas, Mom, close friend from high-school, a friend from Kiwanis, and a co-worker's mother.) I hate them and have no intention of ever attending another. I will even skip my own. The practice of going to funerals of people you do not know at all just because they are related to someone you do know, makes no sense to me. All kinds of people came to my Mom's funeral and I was thinking "what are you doing here? You never even met Mom." Some of them probably were not even aware I had a mother.

Of course the reality is I will likely have to attend several more.
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Old 05-31-2018, 11:29 PM
 
Location: Mid-Atlantic
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I've only been to two real funerals. The first was when I watched my grandmother being lowered into the ground in a steady February freezing rain. I was eight years old.
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Old 06-01-2018, 03:38 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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I've only been to two real funerals. The first was when I watched my grandmother being lowered into the ground in a steady February freezing rain. I was eight years old.
Grandma's funeral must have been in the South, huhn, Gerania?
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