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I'm very odd. I'm over 60 and never been to a funeral. Been to one "viewing" but that was by accident, something I just had to do cause I was with my dad at the time.
I did not go to any aunts, uncles, grandparents or parents funerals.
My goal is to never go to a funeral. The only one I'd go to would be my wife's. My sister is still alive as is my step-mom and half sister but everyone else is dead.
My friends know my policy. I don't "do" funerals.
Why? I think they're dumb. Sorry, but that's just my opinion.
I do grieve the people who meant something to me after they die. But just not in public, not at funerals or viewings.
I know people like me are very rare in this respect!
0 as well. I’ll be 57 next month. I’ve been to several memorials, but no funerals. Of course I can’t imagine most folks would ever say they enjoy funerals, except for that family gathering potential which some people thrive on, but for me, I can’t see any positive reason to go to one. I’ve never been formally invited to one either.
For me, I think funerals are part of the circle of life. There is nothing negative about them. I will give an A+ to my Catholic School upbringing. When someone would die--a student's parent/nun/priest--our class would go to a funeral Mass--it was closure.
Never would I use the word thrive on the family gathering potential. I would say that when our family has a Wake--it is a celebration of the person's life. We laugh, we sing, we cry--we are there to support the family. I think it serves as a buffer between the end of life and the beginning of a new life for the survivors.
I'm very odd. I'm over 60 and never been to a funeral. Been to one "viewing" but that was by accident, something I just had to do cause I was with my dad at the time.
I did not go to any aunts, uncles, grandparents or parents funerals.
My goal is to never go to a funeral. The only one I'd go to would be my wife's. My sister is still alive as is my step-mom and half sister but everyone else is dead.
My friends know my policy. I don't "do" funerals.
Why? I think they're dumb. Sorry, but that's just my opinion.
I do grieve the people who meant something to me after they die. But just not in public, not at funerals or viewings.
I know people like me are very rare in this respect!
I have a relative like this. She just does not do funerals. BG - when she was a young wife, a child died of crib death. She wanted the service to be very private but someone invited the whole family and they all showed up, to her great chagrin.
I think she put it well when she said, "People don't come and look at me when I am sleeping, why should they come and look at me while I am dead?"
Personally, I know a lot of my relatives have died but with few exceptions I can't remember which funerals I went to. My mom's, when I was a child. And my dad's many years later. Also a cousin who was a young adult, I was 12. My father-in-law's. Latest one was my aunt/godmother.
When my DH passed, he was cremated, later that summer we had an "ashes at sea" ceremony and a meal at a restaurant. Two of his four kids (and their families) managed to show up.
All four of my grandparents, my parents, my wife's parents, all of my aunts and uncles, some cousins and some friends; fellow veterans and others which leaves me as the oldest with my family name. Then last year my wife of nearly 53 years passed away.
It is important to have young friends. Otherwise, when you end up in my situation you won't have anybody.
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I like funerals, if it's an old person who lived a good life. It's a strong reminder of priorities. LIVE.
Funerals for young people, and children, are horrible but IMHO those are the ones you should make yourself attend them if you are close to the family, to comfort them.
Some of the best family reunions have centered around funerals for elderly people who lived well.
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especially don't attend yours!
