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Old 07-02-2018, 06:12 AM
 
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Good comments.

I would add it is not recommended to go to a support group for at least 2 or 3 months, the grief is too raw and it is too much for the individual to take in other people's losses. I know I went to a group and was later asked to volunteer. Those who came right after the loss ended up dropping out after one or two sessions.

Something to keep in mind.
I had the same thought. I've never been to one, but a friend of mine brought it up to me (in reference to him) and talked about how you get to hear others' memories and stories and see that they are going through the same thing you are. My first thought was that I don't think he would want that, at least not yet. Maybe individual counseling.

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Absolutely, what the OP or any other family member thought of her, keep it to yourself.
Agreed. I've been choosing words very carefully to avoid this. I don't know if there will ever come a day when I or anyone else in the family will talk to him about our feelings....if so, I wouldn't think it would happen until years have passed.
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Old 07-02-2018, 06:39 AM
 
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You lost me at the wife making your brother throw two pets out in the cold "where they couldn't survive". I'm surprised he isn't feeling a little relief as she seemed to be a cold, bossy, uncaring person. But everybody has their own issues and for him to put up with hers for so long tells me he must have loved her despite these issues or he is having a hard time adjusting to life with her.


I would also suggest grief counseling.
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Old 07-09-2018, 02:31 PM
 
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You lost me at the wife making your brother throw two pets out in the cold "where they couldn't survive".
It certainly doesn't help matters, but I'm not sure that I will ever get over that. And they had options. My other sibling, my parents, and I were all living in the same town when this happened. Any of us would have taken them in until whatever the crisis was ended. Their deaths were pointless.
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