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Old 12-12-2018, 10:36 AM
 
Location: NJ
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I'm writing a condolence card for a distant family member who lost her adult child suddenly. I have the first part of the card written. I wrote about the son and how I remember him being but now I'm stuck. This family was big into laughter so my last line is speaking to how he made people laugh and he really was talented in a very admirable way with being able to keep people smiling.

After the memory I'd usually say I'm there and offer to help with household things etc but this relative is not nearby. I rarely see them and we never call each other. This is a distant family member both in location and our familiarity so offering to talk would be out of place.

I'm not sure how to close the card out. I feel that having a last line of he always made people laugh and then saying sincerly__our names__ would be too unfeeling.
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Old 12-12-2018, 11:47 AM
 
Location: Nantahala National Forest, NC
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I'd close with a "thinking of you" or "wishing you peace"...

Like your idea of also giving a nod to his positive attributes.
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Old 12-12-2018, 01:44 PM
 
Location: SWFL
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I'd close with a "thinking of you" or "wishing you peace"...

Like your idea of also giving a nod to his positive attributes.
This^^^^^^^^^^^. ,gbh.
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Old 12-12-2018, 01:56 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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I'd close with a "thinking of you" or "wishing you peace"...

Like your idea of also giving a nod to his positive attributes.


yup=this sounds good to me too.



To be honest, I think the 1st part of the card will be remember more. As long as it's sincere and kind, it won't be wrong.
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Old Today, 01:49 AM
 
Location: NJ
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Thank you all for making me feel more at ease. I did end up going with my gut. I always feel like there is no card that can make someone feel better after losing a child. Hopefully she smiled at least inside when I wrote my anecdote about how he was making people happy.
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Old Today, 10:49 AM
 
Location: SWFL
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Thank you all for making me feel more at ease. I did end up going with my gut. I always feel like there is no card that can make someone feel better after losing a child. Hopefully she smiled at least inside when I wrote my anecdote about how he was making people happy.
Good.
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