Cannot believe what "friend" said to me in my grief.

[Clemencia53]

Originally Posted by Spottednikes

Probably she was wondering if guilt was normal when losing parents due to her situation. It comes down to normal grieving, and feeling that you should have done "x". Don't take it personally.
No doubt, she worded it poorly , and it was hurtful, but its coming from her worry about her own situation and whether guilt is normal.

Yes. Probably her way of sorting out her own feelings.