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Old Yesterday, 05:52 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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I used to kinda laugh at this thought, keeping one's remains in their apt or home of a loved one or pet and now I'm thinking more and more "how smart"...why put that person/pet in the ground.

Just heard a pet show on the radio I listen to and the moderator said he just received his recently deceased beloved Cisco's remains and they are going on the shelf of memories.

My daughter said years ago, she would put my remains in her bedroom, wonder if she still thinks that, maybe in the living room or den.

A neighbor has her brother's remains in a nice box in her apt. She yells at him sometimes.

Maybe we do it all wrong, giving our hard earned money to funeral directors and cemetaries...um,,,

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Old Yesterday, 06:02 PM
 
Location: Upstate NY
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I used to kinda laugh at this thought, keeping one's remains in their apt or home of a loved one or pet and now I'm thinking more and more "how smart"...why put that person/pet in the ground.

Just heard a pet show on the radio I listen to and the moderator said he just received his recently decased beloved Cisco's remains and they are going on the shelf of memories.

My daughter said years ago, she would put my remains in her bedroom, wonder if she still thinks that, maybe in the living room or den.

A neighbor has her brother's remains in a nice box in her apt. She yells at him sometimes.

Maybe we do it all wrong, giving our hard earned money to funeral directors and cemetaries...um,,,

lol.
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Old Yesterday, 06:48 PM
 
Location: Lafayette, LA
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I used to kinda laugh at this thought, keeping one's remains in their apt or home of a loved one or pet and now I'm thinking more and more "how smart"...why put that person/pet in the ground.

Just heard a pet show on the radio I listen to and the moderator said he just received his recently decased beloved Cisco's remains and they are going on the shelf of memories.

My daughter said years ago, she would put my remains in her bedroom, wonder if she still thinks that, maybe in the living room or den.

A neighbor has her brother's remains in a nice box in her apt. She yells at him sometimes.

Maybe we do it all wrong, giving our hard earned money to funeral directors and cemetaries...um,,,
Pretty sure you need the funeral people and crematories in order to keep brother in your bedroom or on your mantel.
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Old Yesterday, 07:19 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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You need to spend some $$ for cremation but not thousands. I'm sure I am not alone in this thinking. In my grandparents life, their families were laid out in homes and not in funeral homes and yes they had plots back then but prices have skyrocketed like everything else.

At 65, 15 yrs ago I registered with a Morturary here in LA for cremation and having my remains either scattered or brought to a loved one, and if I should go now, it would cost under $700 for this. I don't believe in spending $1000's on death, spend it on the living. And this is not up front money, just makes too much sense to me. It's sorta like the Neptune society only less $$$.

If this conversation does not belong here, please move it where it's appropriate. thanks.

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Old Yesterday, 08:20 PM
 
Location: I am right here.
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Oh geez, if I had put any cremains on my mantle or any shelf, they would have been repeatedly knocked off by one of my cats. Then I'd be vacuuming up ashes.

Everyone is safely tucked away underground. (Well, their remains are. I don't believe they are really there, IYKWIM).
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Old Yesterday, 09:13 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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Oh geez, if I had put any cremains on my mantle or any shelf, they would have been repeatedly knocked off by one of my cats. Then I'd be vacuuming up ashes.

Everyone is safely tucked away underground. (Well, their remains are. I don't believe they are really there, IYKWIM).
You don't think they are underground, where do you think they are?

I would not put the urn or box on a high spot to be knocked over but in a safe low spot. I remember the moved with Ben Stiller and the urn that he knocked over with a bottle cork. I don't have cats to worry about knocking stuff down.
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Old Yesterday, 09:17 PM
 
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I still have my late husband's remains, and I had given some of them to his parents. I too talked to him for a couple years. I have a cat, a dog.....

Not exactly a hobby I planned on... collecting remains.
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Old Yesterday, 09:25 PM
 
Location: I am right here.
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You don't think they are underground, where do you think they are?

I would not put the urn or box on a high spot to be knocked over but in a safe low spot. I remember the moved with Ben Stiller and the urn that he knocked over with a bottle cork. I don't have cats to worry about knocking stuff down.
Their physical remains are in the ground, but I believe their souls are with God.

If I put an urn in a low spot, I would be fairly certain the kitten would somehow find a way to get inside. She's persistent, that one. She has figured out how to open drawers and doors. She can get herself into any box, open or closed. I frequently come home to drawers of my dresser opened and all the contents (underwear, socks, tshirts) pulled out and on the floor. She knows exactly how to jump to manipulate the handles of my sons' bedroom doors and open them. She knows how to push her paws under the French doors and force them open.
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Old Yesterday, 09:26 PM
 
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I still have my late husband's remains, and I had given some of them to his parents. I too talked to him for a couple years. I have a cat, a dog.....

Not exactly a hobby I planned on... collecting remains.
I have many pet remains buried in my yard. (actual remains, not just ashes). [cats, rabbits, guinea pigs mostly.]
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Old Yesterday, 10:18 PM
 
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Cost is only one factor. I'm not sure I could keep the remains. IMO, burying the deceased or spreading the the ashes, interment, etc., is a step in the process of moving on. I personally like having a burial plot with a headstone so I know where to go visit. As a part of the living, I need to forge forward and continue to search for my happiness. I think keeping myself surrounded by cremains wouldn't allow that as easily.
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