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Old 10-26-2008, 11:53 AM
 
Location: S.Dak
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I am going to give this to my friend when she is ready, if that is alright. Thank you for sharing.
Please do...........
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Old 10-26-2008, 12:07 PM
 
Location: Lansing, MI
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So sorry to hear of the loss, I can't imagine how horrifying it would be to discover your loved one like this. Especially your child. My thoughts are with your friend during this trying time.
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Old 10-26-2008, 12:15 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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My heart goes out to you and your friend. I can't imagine something more shocking or painful than losing a loved one especially one so young and so suddenly.

Families who experience death by suicide are especially hit hardest because not only are there feelings of grief and loss but guilt over not realizing the amount of pain the persoon was in.

Be there for your friend and listen. Just listen and empathize. Ask her what to do and be there for her. The family will need support.
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Old 10-26-2008, 12:16 PM
 
Location: Oriental, NC
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Of course...already done.
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Old 10-26-2008, 12:19 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Really sorry to hear that. When I was in high school, a friend committed suicide, I still find myself thinking it.

Shame.
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Old 10-26-2008, 04:01 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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This IS heartbreaking news. I so wish we could get the message out to teens more often that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem! I am so very sorry for this young man's parents. Right now you are all in shock. You'd be better off waiting a few days or weeks before you try to make sense of it all or try to establish scholarships or that kind of thing. Just give yourselves time, and lots of hugs. God bless.
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Old 10-26-2008, 04:08 PM
 
Location: NW Montana
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Just got a call from a good friend/former neighbor giving me the news that a mutual close friend called her 20 year old son down for breakfast this morning(he came home from college for the weekend) and he did not answer. She went into his room and he had killed himself.

This is so unbelievable as this young man seemed to have it all...smart, driven, attends a great university, funny, handsome...he even worked for us a few summers during high school.

My heart just aches for my friend but yet I have no idea what I can do. We (our circle of friends) have already gotten together the obligatory meal schedule and I will be hosting the get together after the funeral probably Tuesday or Wednesday...

What else can I do? I feel like I should have them stay here or if they do not want to be with people right now, maybe put them up in a nice hotel.

My friends and I are also getting ideas together to form a foundation in his name.

Even though I know we all come from different religious backgrounds, all of you being amazing people, could you pray, meditate, chant, send good energy, plant a tree, whatever moves you, could you just send some good energy to my friend and her family? They need it so badly right now.

Thank you all.
Even if they express a desire to be alone do everything in your power to see they are attended to at all times, this time is critical, many health issues can arise in the parents, mental and physical. I know it is hard to know what to do but just being in the present with them will help prop them up at this time. You are a true compassionate friend, good luck.
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Old 10-26-2008, 07:17 PM
 
Location: in purgurtory in London
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Suicide is so horrible and cruel to those left behind. It leaves so many unanswered questions and even a feeling of inadequacy and anger by the loved ones. I also wouldn't be starting any foundations just yet...let his family grieve for a while and then discuss it with them.
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Old 10-26-2008, 07:19 PM
 
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Someone I knew in high school committed suicide and I was shocked because he was kinda popular, social, and one of the attractive guys. I had a little crush on him and I was also sad to see him go. Ugh.

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Really sorry to hear that. When I was in high school, a friend committed suicide, I still find myself thinking it.

Shame.
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Old 10-26-2008, 07:20 PM
 
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Right, you don't want to appear all greedy and capitalistic now.

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Suicide is so horrible and cruel to those left behind. It leaves so many unanswered questions and even a feeling of inadequacy and anger by the loved ones. I also wouldn't be starting any foundations just yet...let his family grieve for a while and then discuss it with them.
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