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Old 07-16-2012, 06:38 AM
 
Location: Franklin
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In the end, you learn a bit about the people around you, and about yourself. And I think that is probably more important than fussing about how people "should" be. That's a waste of time and emotional energy. Life is about what is.
Rather than take this as you telling me that my work is a "waste of time and emotional energy", (ouch ), I think I can find more common ground than you might expect.

What I do is share the experiences of those who have lost someone they loved to help others understand what helps and what hurts. The more we know, the better job we will do. As we learn about the grief of others, we are learning about the people around us, and ourselves, as you suggested.

I never claimed to be "fussing about how people 'should' be". (If I came across that way, that's my fault and I apologize.) My only aim is to offer ways to provide support for people after a death to those who want it.

At 74, I suspect you have a lot to offer. Thanks for the feedback!
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Old 07-20-2012, 09:45 AM
 
Location: Not where I want to be.
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...to just let me be alone. If I need someone I will seek you out and I know you will be there for me.
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Old 07-21-2012, 08:05 AM
 
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Oddly today someone gave me rep for what i said on pg 3, and yesterday our pet past on...

Grief is a brain process for the living, to learn to accept loss. Pets teach us many things, and unconditional love is just one.
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Old 07-21-2012, 09:22 AM
 
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So sorry about your loss, Mac_Muz

Our pets become parts of our family & the grieving is difficult as all grieving.
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Old 07-21-2012, 01:53 PM
 
Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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Mac, do you know there is a Pet forum with a special section for the Rainbow Bridge where you can pay tribute to your pet that has passed? Please join the other pet owners there if you'd like.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. He was a beautiful Rottie mix.
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Old 07-21-2012, 03:23 PM
 
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I find myself speechless in many situations. This "Finding the Right Words" has helped me so much that I printed out a copy and have hung it on my refrigerator.
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Old 07-21-2012, 06:27 PM
 
Location: WA
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Mac_Muz,

Uncondtional love is what our fur babies give us; a dear friend reminded me of this when our fur baby went acrossed the
Rainbow Bridge. It helped comfort me.

Am sorry for your loss. Prayers for comfort are being said.
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Old 07-22-2012, 07:04 AM
 
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Sam, The dog's name was Lucy.... The white patch of fur under her is just that a white patch of fur. She was mixed with Nefie, and had just been puppy cut for this summer season when the pic was taken back in early June.

Just makin' a little correction, but now you say it I can see it...

Her sister is still here, and trying to be everyone's dog for everybody. Last evening we had a guest for a little while and Evie was floppin around like a fish. Usually Evie flops over once and lays motionless on the floor, unless food becomes a part of the equation.
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Old 07-22-2012, 07:12 AM
 
Location: The Great State of Arkansas
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So sorry - I meant to type "she", I knew it - brain collapse. She just sorta looked Rottie to me - - my apologies. All that being said, I am glad you have Evie - I am sure she is a great comfort to you.
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Old 07-22-2012, 09:10 PM
 
Location: Not where you ever lived
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Say little and don't forget the living. An empty house without a network of friends and family is still and empty house.
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