Divorce Support Group

Hi My name is Cathi, I am always thinking about divorce. I have allowed him to pick on me and many other issues that I hope someone has input about

Maybe that calls for congratulations, yesterdaze! Howdy, I'm Joan. Why don't you tell us about it?
j

Hi all - 4 yrs outta my divorce and just now coming to terms .

Robyn,
I think it's time to spring for a lawyer again.
Good luck with the police visit. I don't think the sister can make anything like that stick if she doesn't have the phone co. records to back it up.
Then you can have HER arrested for filing a false police report or harrassing or something!
Write and let me know what happened.
J

Here is a call from him.... I had called to talk to my son and ended up on the phone with him.


Well, I was trying... can't do it.

I have the file but for some reason I can't attach it ... ((

If someone knows how I do it, let me know.

So, this is what happens, I record all calls to the kids. Virginia is the state I live in and it is known as what is called a 'One Party State'.

I can record the conversations by law.

Oh well, heading to bed now. Big day tomorrow. I am filing for divorce and then I am turning myself into the police. His sister has put a warrant out for my arrest, so... gotta turn myself in.

She claims I have been making harassing phone calls to her house. I called her house a couple of times during my tele visitation to talk to my dd because her father had the cell phone and was at work with it.

He lives with his sister, mother and brother in law.

Joy.

Robyn,
Good for you for standing your ground and filing for divorce and support. And for recognizing his threats for what they are.
I haven't heard of Intermittent Explosive Disorder (horrors) but it sounds just like my stbx. I'll look it up immediately, though, just out of curiosity.
Bipolar, boarderline personality disorder and even psychopathy and sociopathy have a bunch of symptoms in common, so it's hard to figure out which one or ones we may be dealing with. As far as parental alienation syndrom, been there, done that. My stbx has my children convinced I am the wicked witch of the west. I can only hope they figure out the truth before too long.
So good luck tomorrow. Go out and celebrate afterwards!
J

Today makes one year I have been separated. Filing tomorrow.

Happy Labor Day all!!!

Hi Joan.

I plan on going to the courthouse on Tuesday to file. My situation confusing... lol. I agree. I want to file and get it over with. We didn't really have any real property. He kept most all of the furniture and even the kids beds.

He threatened me against asking for spousal support. Threatened to take the kids. He used that threat on many many things.

I am done with his threats. I filed for spousal the beginning of last month.

I am not wanting to put any more money towards my atty. He really does not do much for me at all. My stbx has poured out all kinds of cash to his, though.

I think he may have Bipolar D/O. There is another thing that is called Intermittant Explosive disorder which he fits as well.

Another lady from cd sent me a link about something called Parental alienation Syndrome, and he and the kids fit that as well.. Also his family members. He has been living with them all of this time and is finally getting his own place.

He says on 0912 but I am certain he moved this week. He was supposed to give the court and myself 30 days notice and gave notice on exactly the 12th of last mo.

I really am not worried about it. I am so tired of court and lawyers and all of that.

Hope your evening is a good one.

Hi, Robyn,
Sorry I didn't get back to your last message. Your whole situation is a little confusing to me, so I'm taking some time to "digest." !
I have been separated for about 22 months... no divorce yet. Neither one of us wants to file for divorce until we settle the financial arrangements; that is, alimony and distribution of financial assets. He's dragging his feet and both our attorneys have made a lot of money off us dragging their feet!
I know what you mean about getting down in the dumps. It happens to me about every other day. Today I realized that the reason I can't decide on a place to live (selling this house and moving out of state) is that what I really want is my family back. My kids are across the country and across the world, and even if I did move near one of them there is no telling how long they would be there with their career considerations.
I think one of the most important things that has happened is that my husband's opinion of me just doesn't matter any more. His rants, sermons, threats and insults mostly fall on deaf ears now. Just wait until his girlfriend finds out what a prince she is getting. roflmao !
I finally realized that he has an emotional disorder--I thought it was just an abusive personality--after I talked to his psychiatrist. I wonder if your stbx has anything like that?
Well, have a great weekend, or what's left of it. And take care of yourself!
J

Joan....

Hoping all is well with you and that you have a nice holiday, as well as anyone else reading.

I was wondering how long you have been divorced/separated. You may have said how long, not sure.

Tomorrow I will be separated for 1 year. Seems like yesterday, seems like forever. Today... kind of a sucky day for me for some reason. Had a blow out with ex yesterday, him belittling me and all that nice stuff.

He is aware that I record any and all conversations and he was telling me how I have to buy the kids a phone if I want to talk to them for more than 5 minutes a day, etc.

Said so many things that in the eyes of the court destroy him, but that would never happen, not to him....

Take care,

Robyn