Rudeness in 23451. Is it just me? (Richmond, Hampton: condo, house, neighborhood)

[jhrichmond]

Ok. I always thought my condo was on Chick's Beach, but realize now that it's technically not. It's the building next door to where the Duck-In used to be (Harbour Gate). I am a very easygoing gal, but the area is so stuck up and rude! Is it just me? I realize this is where most of the elite in the area live, but I have been around people with money most of my life and have never encountered the sense of self entitlement that I see in the grocery stores, restaurants, on the roads, etc.
I was actually yelled at like a dog by the VP of my condo assoc. (who's like 85 years old) at my first meeting because I didn't realize I wasn't allowed to talk during "closed forum". My husband will be speaking with him about that, but to me, it's just human decency.
Our downstairs neighbor called us (at home on a Saturday night) and told us that our remodeling has made 3 months of his life hell and that it's "people like us" who ruin everything for them. This was the first he had complained, except one time when our contractor was there after 5 (which is against the rules and never happened again).
I have never felt so unwelcome in a community. We are friends with everyone in our neighborhood in Richmond. We have just finished a massive remodel and now I really just want to sell the place.
Sorry for the rant, but it has really gotten to the point that I don't even want to spend time at the beach house my husband and I work so hard to afford. Is all of VB like this, or is it my zip code? The kids who work at Chick's Oyster Bar are so rude and unfriendly, I avoid the place now. I have encountered much friendlier people in the actual Chick's Beach restaurants, like the Green Parrot.
Again, sorry for the rant, but it's been eating at me. Maybe I just need to get a tougher skin.

[Erma]

Closed forumns are just that. Open forumns are where you speak. Chicks' Beach to us is near the CBBT. I can't imagine anyone being rude down there. My advice is to take a look at yourself. I'm not trying to be rude, believe me. I do ALOT of PR with my job as well as where we have our RV site. Sometimes people are defensive for a reason. Could be your body language, an accent (if you have one) or the tone of your voice. My spouse has a Boston accent and sometimes people take offense when really, it's just the accent that seems that way. I can talk to a rock and make it smile. He can't.

[jhrichmond]

Originally Posted by Erma

Closed forumns are just that. Open forumns are where you speak. Chicks' Beach to us is near the CBBT. I can't imagine anyone being rude down there. My advice is to take a look at yourself. I'm not trying to be rude, believe me. I do ALOT of PR with my job as well as where we have our RV site. Sometimes people are defensive for a reason. Could be your body language, an accent (if you have one) or the tone of your voice. My spouse has a Boston accent and sometimes people take offense when really, it's just the accent that seems that way. I can talk to a rock and make it smile. He can't.

Thanks Erma. I do know the difference between open and closed forums, but like I said, it was my first meeting and I didn't realize it was closed forum time. That is no excuse for the way he yelled at me, either way. I wouldn't speak to a dog the way he spoke to me, but fortunately the hubby will see to it that that doesn't happen again.
I have never had a problem making a friend in my life. We visit the Bahamas 2 or 3 times a year and have several friends there, as well as all over the US. VB is the only place I've felt this kind of hostility.

[Erma]

See, now I think the Bahamas are a bit stiff. We made a few friends there and of course, Nassau IMO is a hell hole. I travel all over the US and other countries and I find people to be different in all walks of life. Maybe the ol' guy was just too set in his ways and was on a power trip?

[Rita Mordio]

I've always encountered this type of rude behavior from those who believe that they are in the "elites". Sorry, but true high class individuals do not act so condescending. High Class isn't just about money, but also the class of character.

These people you live around - are nothing but trash with money.

Yes, what I say sounds really harsh... but I'm really tired of dealing with rude individuals who have the gall to assume that because they drive such-and-such vehicle, it means that they are "above" the rest of society.

You sound like a great person who is being shoved around by snot-nosed preschoolers stuck in adult form. If you honestly have been thinking about leaving, then do so! We'll welcome you here in the Windsor Woods section.

[Erma]

Originally Posted by Kuharai

We'll welcome you here in the Windsor Woods section.

You live in my neighborhood?

[Rita Mordio]

Originally Posted by Erma

You live in my neighborhood?

Just goes to show that good people live here.

[Erma]

Originally Posted by Kuharai

Just goes to show that good people live here.

Well I guess we can just walk down the street and meet then...what street?

[Rita Mordio]

Originally Posted by Erma

Well I guess we can just walk down the street and meet then...what street?

We probably could... Small World.

As for the OP, if you're not happy then you should move. Find a place that makes you happy.

[Alanboy395]

Originally Posted by Kuharai

I've always encountered this type of rude behavior from those who believe that they are in the "elites". Sorry, but true high class individuals do not act so condescending. High Class isn't just about money, but also the class of character.

These people you live around - are nothing but trash with money.

Yes, what I say sounds really harsh... but I'm really tired of dealing with rude individuals who have the gall to assume that because they drive such-and-such vehicle, it means that they are "above" the rest of society.

You sound like a great person who is being shoved around by snot-nosed preschoolers stuck in adult form. If you honestly have been thinking about leaving, then do so! We'll welcome you here in the Windsor Woods section.

Trust me, living in rich Northern VA for almost 4 years and Working-class Hampton Roads for 12 i can tell you from personal experience that money can't and won't buy class.