Blood Pressure Problems And Family Advice

[Miborn]

Maybe your dad put her in control of the finances because he just cant say no to you and k nows that he should. You really should not be asking your 60 yr old father for anything financial. Is he retired on a fixed income and if he is working why couldnt you have contacted him at work to say the brother was visiting? Or even to stop by his house with the brother in tow?
She may not be very nice but she may also feel you are taking advantage of your dad.
Sounds like someone is needing some apron strings cut and to grow up.

[MIKEH2010]

Originally Posted by Miborn

Maybe your dad put her in control of the finances because he just cant say no to you and k nows that he should. You really should not be asking your 60 yr old father for anything financial. Is he retired on a fixed income and if he is working why couldnt you have contacted him at work to say the brother was visiting? Or even to stop by his house with the brother in tow?
She may not be very nice but she may also feel you are taking advantage of your dad.
Sounds like someone is needing some apron strings cut and to grow up.

my father hardly worked throughout his and my mother's marriage.he partied the whole time.he would hold a job down a while but lose it.he finally grew up after they divorced.we lived a decent life off my mom's income but never had money for any extra stuff besides neccessities.anyway after meeting this woman my dad started finally working making really great money.he gave this woman fantastic places to live that me and my sister never got to experience growing up.he did leave her in charge of the finances due to his bad management of money.maybe your right that we shouldn't ask him for money or help but we only did that very rarely.your right she isn't very nice but she is claiming to my father that through the years she has helped us out with stuff like utility bills,car notes,rent,etc. when she did not ever do those things.i think there has been times he told her to help us out and she turned around and told him she did when she didn't.the thing is that my dad has finally stopped long enough to see things and he isn't busy as much.he has worked 70 or 80 hour weeks the last fifteen years and he hasn't been working as much.he was so busy i think she was telling him how close she was with the rest of the family when the rest of the family do not like her much at all.now that he has free time i think he might be seeing things about her and going uh oh but the thing is he is old now and pretty much stuck with her.she painted a picture that things were great with her and his kids when they weren't......

[Miborn]

Originally Posted by MIKEH2010

my father hardly worked throughout his and my mother's marriage.he partied the whole time.he would hold a job down a while but lose it.he finally grew up after they divorced.we lived a decent life off my mom's income but never had money for any extra stuff besides neccessities.anyway after meeting this woman my dad started finally working making really great money.he gave this woman fantastic places to live that me and my sister never got to experience growing up.he did leave her in charge of the finances due to his bad management of money.maybe your right that we shouldn't ask him for money or help but we only did that very rarely.your right she isn't very nice but she is claiming to my father that through the years she has helped us out with stuff like utility bills,car notes,rent,etc. when she did not ever do those things.i think there has been times he told her to help us out and she turned around and told him she did when she didn't.the thing is that my dad has finally stopped long enough to see things and he isn't busy as much.he has worked 70 or 80 hour weeks the last fifteen years and he hasn't been working as much.he was so busy i think she was telling him how close she was with the rest of the family when the rest of the family do not like her much at all.now that he has free time i think he might be seeing things about her and going uh oh but the thing is he is old now and pretty much stuck with her.she painted a picture that things were great with her and his kids when they weren't......

Do You feel he Owes you? Are you Jealous of this 2nd wife getting what you feel you should have had with your mom? Is your mom prompting any of this hate you feel towards your dads 2nd wife? Does your mom prompt you to get it from dad because he never did anything for you growing up?
I am sorry to tell you that your father owes you nothing except back child support. Nothing more!
You should be happy that he got his life together and is happy. Instead of having your hand out and acting like a spoiled 35 yr old kid!

[MIKEH2010]

i'll be honest there are some issues there.yeah i have gotten a little envious in the past.no its not that i have my hand out and i'm not a 35 year old spoiled kid.i lost my job of ten years here about a year ago.yes i do feel like in rare instances i should be able to ask my dad for a little bit of help.